my ex was awful and if he contacted me I would be a mess with the awful thoughts coming back. I hope she didn't leave you because she likes him but because she hates him so much

If her ex can walk back in 6 years late and take her you are better off. what a ****.

I don't know.. like obviously this sucks for you from any angle you look at it, but I can also kind of see her side. At the very least should give her props for just pausing/ending it rather than going on and cheating, because that's what she probably means by 'emotionally unstable'. I've been in love with a guy I can't (currently?) have and I've kind of made my peace with it and if another nice bloke came along, I would 100% go for it. Is it unfair for the 'another nice bloke'? Perhaps, but what else am I meant to do? Just never be with anyone or give anyone or myself a chance? But then, if in 6 years time that guy who I never had closure with popped up saying all the right things, I wouldn't be surprised if the feelings or the curiosity to test it would still be there, but whether you take the risk or not is a different matter. You can end it with the current dude, you can cheat, you can just not act on it, but might regret any of the choices after - there's really no win-win situation for anyone in this scenario.

After six years, you’d think she’d be over her ex.

it was a typo. supposed to say kneeling over a table.

Funny how most of the commenters think that she chose the ex-boyfriend, instead of just considering that she actually is emotionally unstable and it could be related in a totally different way to the ex than wanting him.

How did this get such a low rating?