By TooMuchAnxiety - 10/03/2015 08:03 - United States - Kailua
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For everyone asking why we broke up, its because he was very manipulative and downright abusive behind closed doors. I can't back out because i'm afraid of what might happen if I do.
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i can see why he's your ex
He is your ex boyfriend. You are not obligated to say yes. You should care more about what is right for you rather than what a crowd of teenagers think and feel you should do or say. Stand up for yourself and say no. Don't let fear stand in the way of being true to yourself. Just be honest but also mindful of his feelings and just say no and stand your ground. Do t let a guy force you to do something you don't want to do. Good luck and try not to let the weight of school peer pressure force you into being or doing something you don't want to do or be
That is 100x easier said than done, especially in HS or middle school/jr. high. Some of the cruelest people you encounter are in those times of your life.
I know you have anxiety but you can still say no. Don't let people take advantage of you. YDI
What if he still liked her and didn't know about her anxiety?
What do you mean "forced" to say yes? Did he have a gun to your head? Let me guess, if he proposed in public, you'd go through with it and complain the rest of your life too? Grow a spine. Contact him and say you don't want to go. Simple.
Sure you can.
checkmate!
What an ass. You can still back out. I would.
rinnybell210
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Of course you can back out. He's your ex, he had no right to ask you and he has no right to go with you.
TooMuchAnxiety
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For everyone asking why we broke up, its because he was very manipulative and downright abusive behind closed doors. I can't back out because i'm afraid of what might happen if I do.
I'm so sorry, OP. Maybe go to the police and explain the situation and ask for help? They may be able to do something and protect you from him.
If he is like that he does not deserve anyone but himself you definitely deserves better, so go to the police or your parents/guardians and ask for help. Im so sorry this happened to you
I'm from Honolulu. If you need someone to talk to then I'm all ears. :)
do you have a family that supports you? you did the step ones, you can do it again! call him/send him a text and tell him you won't go with him! you don't need to explain anything. Just don't do it. You'll be proud of yourself in the end! always remember it's nobodies business who you are with! you have to be happy with that person and nobody else!
I know anxiety makes it rough because everything seems like it will have disastrous results. In cases like this, I try to remind myself that the danger the anxiety is warning me about isn't real, while the danger your ex poses is very real. Do not go to the dance. Fake being sick, get your mom to call his parents to tell him to stay away from your, get your dad to threaten the boy loudly and publicly (let him have some social anxiety for once), whatever it takes. Talk to your parents, talk to the guidance councilor at school. Tell someone that's a gossip that you're afraid of him, and let the rumor mill go to work for you. Do whatever is necessary to get out of this date. The fear of looking bad is an illusion, while this guy is a real threat. You can do this.
Abusive men are the worst when they feel as if they are losing control, so I can understand how you are afraid of what would happen. Complying to try to keep him calm won't keep you safe either. Restraining order and mace work much better.
Restraining order
Why not talk to your mom? Or call the cops? He sounds awful, he's to not gonna change. Tell someone now before he hurts someone else. The cycle of abuse won't stop until he is stopped.
Just don't show up. If he's picking you up have your family or some friends there in case he gets violent. He can't make you go.
Please get help and find a way to rid yourself of him. I was in an emotionally and financially abusive relationship for far too long. You can get out and it will be a huge relief!!! I will have you in my thoughts.
All the best with the situation! Be strong!
amileah13
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Awww you poor thing that's terrible :( you need to get away from him, he's not safe for you!
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Don't buy a dress, if he asks to see it, stall. On the day of homecoming, you're suddenly too sick to leave your bed! Problem solved
Or she can just tell him to **** off for putting her in such a predicament.