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By Colecto - 16/12/2016 14:26

Today, like every other day, even though I now earn more than double than my last job, I still live like a rat, having to choose between eating or paying bills. This is because I also support my fiancee, his brother and parents, who have been out of work for months. If I don't, they go hungry. FML
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mcdgaf 14

Does he expect you to pay for them? If they are out of work there are programs that provide food, both private and public. Also, people make insane amounts of money pan handling. Bottom line is that his family's financial situation is not now, nor will it ever be your responsibility. Be a bitch because self preservation and affording your wedding is a better cause than enabling people.

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mcdgaf 14

Does he expect you to pay for them? If they are out of work there are programs that provide food, both private and public. Also, people make insane amounts of money pan handling. Bottom line is that his family's financial situation is not now, nor will it ever be your responsibility. Be a bitch because self preservation and affording your wedding is a better cause than enabling people.

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sohigh10 34

I agree that there are other options and that she has no responsibility to provide for them all.. but affording a wedding is a bigger priority than helping your family eat?

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mcdgaf 14

So since you obviously are commenting for the sake of argument, how exactly is it you'd like me to respond? Should I point out that self preservation came before financing a wedding in that sentence? No of course not, you already ignored that.

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Colecto_fml 26

He doesn't expect me to pay, but I can't just relax and chill, snacking and outing, knowing they're miserable and I have the ability to at least help.

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mcdgaf 14

There is a huge difference between help and over extending. Day Labor, food assistance programs, money assistance programs, they are available in all states and all native American territories, and in quite a few first world countries outside of the US. You are lying to yourself if you think you are helping, because I guarantee that you feel 'guilty' everytime you spend your own money on yourself right now and that is never healthy. Wash your hands of the situation because it could create animosity between you and your husbands family down the road either way you choose to go, at least if you stop paying now you save money for the divorce.

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Mynxie 26

Why are you supporting any of them? His family should take care of themselves. And he needs to man up and help out with your bills since you are suppose to be partners in life.

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r83839 22

His entire family is unemployed?? I know times are rough, but you might want to seriously ask yourself how your fiancé has been brought up to view work and money in general. I don't see your marriage lasting long if this keeps up.

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Colecto_fml 26

He does as best as he can. Neither him not his family are lazy or scrappers, just the oposite. They're really hardworking people, just stuck in a rut..

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One_In_Three 24

Unless they've been hospitalised so they cannot work, you really need to tell them to go leech off of someone else.

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PineapplePizza 15

I agree with #2. Be a bitch. Take your life back and refuse to support any of them, make the fiancé get a job or kick him to the curb. He's not worth all the stress you're putting yourself through. There's no reason they can't work or at least get on assistance to help out. It doesn't sound like it'll be a good marriage if this is how you're starting out.

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David58042 8

You are getting played don't let them step over you and make you pay for there lives while I bet they are barley trying to get jobs leave him or her and get out live a life that doesn't hold you down you need someone that wants to better you and themselves not someone who wants you to support his whole family

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Sparx1_1 16

When you are so broke that you are choosing between food and bills then it's time for all the deadbeats you're supporting to figure their shit out. Good jobs are hard to find, but McDonald's is always hiring. If all three of them got part time jobs so they could contribute a little until they got back to decent work then you would not have a problem. There's also food banks, food stamps, welfare. They can also be asking their own relatives for help rather than letting you take care of all of them. Sorry to break it to you but they're using you (including your fiancee) and if they ever manage to become self sufficient, it's pretty much a guarantee that you will never get a single cent of the money you've spent on them back.

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