By billiejoeinabox - 31/07/2016 11:09
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And you're still with him because....?
I think the final comments strongly suggest that she's not with him any more.
A horrible thing to happen, I know. However, if he feels guilty/sorry for it, I would try talking (sternly of course) with him about what he did wrong, and see if the relationship can't be repaired. 4 years is a long time to just throw away.
He threw it away the second he decided to betray her for someone else
Once someone cheats the trust is gone. Could you honestly say you wouldn't be wondering all the time afterward what your partner was doing and if you were good enough to stay with? Relationships NEED trust. It's the foundation of basically everything. There is no repair after cheating. They just get better at hiding it. Those who try to repair it end up cheated on over and over no matter how "guilty" the other felt originally.
I know it sucks, and he is an asshole for cheating on you, but maybe there is a way to work things out. Before you dump him, see if you can make him understand that what he did was wrong, and him promise not to do it again.
Right. Because the promise of someone who has already told a major lie is something you can trust.
At least your sex life isn't once a month if you're lucky
OP, sometimes people make the mistake of staying with cheaters because they feel that they have invested too much time into the relationship. It may have been 4 years but it's not your whole life. Do not settle. There is zero excuse for cheating. Find yourself another person who respects you. No one deserves a cheater, and there's no guarantee he won't do it again. Good luck!
At least he has a conscience and didn't give you an STD so you have that going for you
Many STDs are asymptomatic in the majority of people, and some also can take months to show up on a test. So, while we can hope he didn't give her anything, we don't know that yet.
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And you're still with him because....?
He threw it away the second he decided to betray her for someone else