By lovely234 - 08/09/2016 16:37 - United States
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Why was she even in your bedroom? And she doesn't even tell you her baby made a mess in it or clean it up herself, that's not right. Also, it seems like her baby is spitting up a lot, which doesn't sound good, they're not supposed to do that dozen of times a day, that's kind of worrying. She should keep a blanket on or near her to let her baby spit up on though, that's what my mom did so she didn't always have to clean up a mess on the floor and could just throw the blanket in the wash. I wouldn't let her stay over anymore if she's not going to respect your house. Maybe a couple times is understandable, but letting your baby throw up everywhere isn't right.
Maybe she has post pardum?
so....that's not an excuse
no one said it was an excuse, it's something that needs to be looked into. I do appreciate your need to comment on something you can't experience though, and your assumptuous nature.
Valid concern. It certainly doesn't sound like she much gives a damn about the kid. Or cleanliness. Or OP.
wtf..... okay 1, the other commenter is right. they are not supposed to spit up that much, she needs to talk to the pediatrician. 2, you dont just point the baby away and let them spit up everywhere and not clean it up!!! gross!!! burp cloths, light blankets, actually even the hooded towels if the baby does it that much. the hood catches a lot. so yeah, shes nasty and doing it wrong, And the kid probably either needs to switch formulas or get on meds for gerd.
Some babies just are spitters. As long as they thrive and gain weight normally, there is nothing wrong with that. My first kid was such a baby: he'd throw up A LOT after almost any meal, but he developed normally, so my pediatrician told me not to worry. It is, however, NOT right to let the friend mess up the flat without cleaning up after the kid. I constantly draped towels everywhere to prevent messes, or at least deal with them quickly.
Not at all an excuse, but if she's exhibiting this kind of behavior in regards to general care for the child, she sounds very much like she has post partum depression, and you may want to inform whoever she is living with full time. Not just because of her lack of concern towards hygiene, apathy towards others, but also because she seems to be ignoring a potential health hazard instead of having it checked over. At the MINIMUM, even if she doesn't have post partum depression, she definitely seems somewhat ill equipped and mental unavailable as a parent. I'm sorry that you had to deal with the matter and mess OP, but I also hope you inform someone- if there was anyone to inform... I hope she isn't living alone and isn't a single mother...
This comment is mind boggling because I didn't say hardly any of that, you really made a ton of stuff up.
So, just to confirm, the baby has reflux and is being treated by a pediatrician. She does live alone and I think she just is so used to the baby spitting up that it doesn't faze her like it did me. As for why the baby was in my room, I live in a very small one bedroom and the baby was grumpy as all hell and needed to lay down in the quiet/dark. I do not think she suffers from post pardum, but I do think that she spends too much time alone and covered in baby puke and therefore she has lost her sense about all of this. Kind of like how I live alone and started talking to myself, and now I catch myself talking to myself in the grocery store. It's just a nasty habit that she definitely needs to deal with and definitely had a negative affect on our visit.
If it's impairing her relationships and hygiene, it sounds very possible it could be post partum depression. Maybe suggest she bring it up with a doctor, if that is within the bounds of your relationship?
Even with reflux, she shouldn't be so casual about her kid spitting up everywhere. There are solutions for that - towels, blankets, etc. She's also disrespecting your home by not cleaning up after the child. If she doesn't clean up at home, either, that's a very dangerous and hazardous environment for a baby that already has health issues. She is displaying certain signs of depression, whether post partum or not. Bring it up with her, suggest she see her doctor, maybe get CPS involved if she doesn't clean up her own home.
Her home is actually very clean, and she did clean up after her child every other time.
Why wouldn't you say something to her? How rude of her to just let the baby spit up everywhere. Did she clean it up at all? Don't be a push over, tell someone they're being a dick when they're being a dick.
I definitely talked to her about it, and she cleaned it up every other time. She didn't realize her baby had spit up on my bed, it was in the far corner under the blanket. I made her very aware of how she was acting and she listened to me. We do have that relationship. Her home is clean, I have been there and she is in no way endangering her baby. She simply doesn't have enough clothes and rags to accommodate the reflux and has figured out a way that works better at her house than it does mine. As for her 'depression' it's not post pardum and is not affecting her child. I did notice it, though, if anything she is completely obsessed with being an excellent mother and is letting herself and her own needs fall into the background, which we worked on a bit the week she was here. People are jumping to insane conclusions on here, next time I see a baby spit up in public, I will definitely consider calling CPS because of the advice I received today.
Why didn't you stick the baby tho?
I'm sorry, has your friend never heard of a spit up towel?
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Why was she even in your bedroom? And she doesn't even tell you her baby made a mess in it or clean it up herself, that's not right. Also, it seems like her baby is spitting up a lot, which doesn't sound good, they're not supposed to do that dozen of times a day, that's kind of worrying. She should keep a blanket on or near her to let her baby spit up on though, that's what my mom did so she didn't always have to clean up a mess on the floor and could just throw the blanket in the wash. I wouldn't let her stay over anymore if she's not going to respect your house. Maybe a couple times is understandable, but letting your baby throw up everywhere isn't right.
wtf..... okay 1, the other commenter is right. they are not supposed to spit up that much, she needs to talk to the pediatrician. 2, you dont just point the baby away and let them spit up everywhere and not clean it up!!! gross!!! burp cloths, light blankets, actually even the hooded towels if the baby does it that much. the hood catches a lot. so yeah, shes nasty and doing it wrong, And the kid probably either needs to switch formulas or get on meds for gerd.