This is about where my mind is on this...besides the fact that vaginas are weird and I don't want to look at anyone else's in particular. Even with a phalloplasty...and it's not that love is based entirely on fertility, but dating a trans man just isn't in my interest. I respect trans men and trans women, it's just not my dating scene.

Just to help 15 out: "trans" is not a noun. It's an adjective. You wouldn't date a trans person.

So a sperm bank or adoption would be out of the question?

There's a difference between finding out fertility down the road and knowing from the start that it won't be an option just using your partner. If you have no problem using a bank or whatever, that's personal preference. But many would like to try naturally first, and that's just not possible with a trans man.

FYI, "trans" isn't a noun; it's an adjective. So you wouldn't want to date a trans person. I don't blame you for that as long as you're not purposefully using language to degrade trans people.

I'd much rather be called a jerk than transphobic, thank you.

Why? Jerk is insulting, transphobic is a compliment

Nope. She was never a guy. Gender has nothing to do with feelings, or genitals; it is all about genetics. There is internalized transphobia, because it is not natural, and it defies the laws of nature, and society. If you want to be a different gender, you need counseling, because there is something seriously wrong with you. That doesn't mean you're a bad person, anymore than having AIDS makes you evil. I mean there is something wrong with you in the same way that having cancer would make something wrong with you. You need it treated, not learn to live with it. I am a very strict scientist, so it bothers me that people believe that a storm of emotions is more important than what Nature means for them. That doesn't mean I hate transgenders, but it does mean I can't accept them as the gender they claim to be.

I would disagree on organic preference as far as physical genitals. If we were all into whatever sex organs someone had, we'd all be purely bisexual. But we're not. It is programmed into our very brains what genitals we're attracted to, and that's okay. If you like penises? Awesome. If you like vaginas? Cool. If you like both, all the more power to you. But not everyone does. You should approach sex how it feels naturally to you. And as far as trans goes, there's evidence showing that their brains actually do have structures of their identified gender, but it's not all fully understood as of yet.

#31, Unless you dating a Chineese disabled trans, STFU.

There is nothing wrong with not wanting to date someone because they're trans, just like there's nothing wrong with not wanting to date someone because of their race/disability. Some may see it as shallow but it all comes down to preference, and there is nothing wrong with preference. I wouldn't date a trans person for a few reasons; mainly because I want children, and having sex with a trans person (even after surgery) would make me uncomfortable. I also wouldn't date people of my own race because I'm just not attracted to them. A person should not feel obligated to like or date someone just because they're seen as minorities or oppressed in society. Quit acting like certain people should be treated like special snowflakes and go back to Tumblr.

One correction: "female" and "male" are words describing one's biological sex, not gender. You have to keep the two separate. So a trans man was assigned female at birth. A trans woman was assigned male at birth. A cis woman was assigned female at birth, and a cis man was assigned male at birth. See? Your sex does not determine your gender.

Sex is biological. Gender is internal. You are strictly,wrong, here.

I would not date someone who was trans for one reason alone; I want biological children of my own, and so a partner who by physical default cannot have children would not be one I could settle with long term happily... it wouldn't be fair on either of us. It is much the same reason that several of my bisexual friends have settled down with (and, in some cases married) the opposite sex; they wanted to have children of their own and so have ruled out relationships that eliminate that factor by default. Much as they find their own sex attractive, I may find trans people attractive, but I don't 'casually' date (I only date looking to the long term, always have) and so just couldn't imagine dating someone with whom I couldn't have kids in the future.