Nobody's saying that. But for the relationship to get that far, he should help pay. She wasn't going to marry herself.

In this instance, it does appear to be his fault. The OP has stated that she was the one who was stood up; not the other way around.

92, It doesn't say that at all, it says they broke up. Being stood up would cost more than the "cancellation fee". 85, Suggesting he's an asshole is actually implying quite obviously that it is his fault. I don't see how you could call him an asshole for not paying when he's oblivious to the fact, so clearly it has to be about ruining the relationship.

92, It doesn't say that at all, it says they broke up. Being stood up would cost more than the "cancellation fee". 85, Suggesting he's an asshole is actually implying quite obviously that it is his fault. I don't see how you could call him an asshole for not paying when he's oblivious to the fact, so clearly it has to be about ruining the relationship.

She already said what happened in another thread. He realized he didn't want to be married, or in a relationship at all. So yes, he should help pay.

162, Learn to differentiate between "stood up" and "cancelled". We don't know if hes an asshole, even she didn't suggest he was.

168, learn to correctly read what I wrote. I never said anything like "stood up", "cancelled", or the ex fiance being an ass hole. I simply stated what OP said, that he realized he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore. If somebody calls a marriage off like that, then yes they should help pay. Where do you see me calling him an ass hole??

168, learn to correctly read what I wrote. I never said anything of her being stood up, cancellation, or of him being an ass hole. I simply restated what OP said, that he didn't want to be married anymore. If anybody breaks off a marriage like that, they should help pay. Where do you see me calling him an ass hole??

168, learn to correctly read what I wrote. I never said anything of her being stood up, cancellation, or of him being an ass hole. I simply restated what OP said, that he didn't want to be married anymore. If anybody breaks off a marriage like that, they should help pay...

168, learn to correctly read what I wrote. I never said anything of her being stood up, cancellation, or of him being an ass hole. I simply restated what OP said, that he didn't want to be married anymore. Never said he was an ass hole.

168, learn to correctly read what I wrote. I never said anything about him being an ass hole, or the word(s) cancellation or stood up. I simply stated that he should help pay because he ended the relationship and marriage plans.

I agree with your point, but not with the YDI. Nobody deserves this just because they wanted to make the day special, even if they did go overboard.

I took your advice and thumbed you down. I didn't see the point in a big huge production either until I got engaged to a woman who did. My wedding day will go down as one of the three happiest days of my life (the birth of my two children are #1 and #2). It's the day that I officially joined forces with my best friend forever, and my wife got the wedding she always wanted. And that's priceless.

No body deserves to be left at the alter no matter if the wedding was expensive or cheap. If you think this person deserves this then your have never experienced the pain and heartache that comes with it.

The entire cost of my 14 person (including guests) wedding would have only run $1500. The venue was $1200 of that. I did plan on putting my money and effort into the marriage instead of the wedding itself. Nice try, though! :)

Doc, this has to relation to this FML, but how did that knife get in your patient..?

Hey DocBastard, how many people ask if that's real blood in your picture?

I miss Doc's x-ray picture... But, blood kinda makes my stomach turn.

#21 And the way people spend their money is none of your business anyway! I don't want a big wedding ceremony either, but some people do. Get over it.

Metalflower - I'll bring it back someday. Sorry about the wedding. Rhino - not too many. I guess people actually believe the truth sometimes. FaZeClan - his brother kindly deposited it in his back for him.

To be honest, what she was paying for a wedding was cheap! When I got married, we went the "cheap" route and ended up paying triple that amount. It was all worth it in the end, but geeeez. Saying YDI because she was being responsible and not going overboard? I think you need to research what the average wedding costs...

That is a horrible idea. In many states you are legally obligated to return the engagement ring if you don't get married. If you sell it, you'll surely get less for it than what he paid, and he'll end up suing you for (and winning) the full amount, so you'll be out a lot more than $900. OP, your situation sucks, but it's better to figure out that it wasn't going to work before the wedding rather than after. Don't shoot yourself in the foot by acting like a vindictive ass about it.

I am a strong believer in "what goes around comes around", and I wouldn't be willing to do anything like that. I'm waiting for him to come pick up his things, ring included. The good news is I get the $500 back from the ring I bought him, so I'm only $400 in the hole. Reading this comment made me realize that, and that's enough to put a smile on my face about something at least. :)

If she called off the wedding then she will have to give the ring back unless it was given to her on a holiday then it is deemed a gift under the eyes of the law and she doesn't have to give it back. If he called off the wedding then she also gets to keep it

Im old school I was taught it was proper to return the ring, no matter how it ended. OP I hate your out and prob hurting, but your right karma is a bitch. It will all come back around.

catrn720, that's simply not true for many states. Try a Google search for "Returning an Engagement Ring"

Your right, that's not always how it goes. I was just restating what a NY judge told my friend when she was going to court over her engagement ring.