...Yeah, you just showed your lack of intelligence there. It's called emotional abuse. The abuser makes the victim reliant on them financially, emotionally, and socially, with the most common method being not permitting the victim to work. The dependency means that the abuser doesn't have to worry about losing their source of ego petting. Add in that society still pressures women to quit working once married, and normalizes men forcing their wife to quit any jobs, and a man threatening to divorce his wife if she has a job is an unfortunately common occurrence of emotional abuse. So congrats on the casual victim blaming and general lack of comprehension of empathy. OP may not be stuck in the 50's, but your views are definitely stuck in the past. Too bad the rest of you didn't stay there as well.

Except I was stuck in a physical and emotionally abusive relationship for two years. I left him before he 100% destroyed my life. I picked my ass up, gotta a job, and my own place.

The fact you are comparing two years of abuse to nine years- and possibly over a decade- of abuse is face palm worthy, to put it kindly. You also demonstrated you have no concept of how the job market works. Only going three years without documented work gets your application automatically kicked out 90% of the time on the first pass. More than five years makes it 95% likely to be kicked out on the first pass. Actually making it to an interview with no work history is a complete miracle. That's WITHOUT considering the fact that OP would be considered overqualified for having a- at minimum- Bachelor degree and medical school degree. Given that you are rather obviously not OP, there are also dozens and potentially hundreds of other factors that you think OP should magically have a work around for, despite the fact you know only a tiny fragment of the story. Just because you managed to escape an abusive relationship doesn't mean you have the right to abusive to other people in similar situations. Being a member of a demographic doesn't mean that your opinions are facts or should be taken as such, ESPECIALLY when said opinions are abusive. You, as someone who says they were abused, should understand how damaging the words of others can be when leaving such a situation. The fact that you either don't or can't do so, and also have the audacity to degrade another victim of abuse is nothing short of disgusting. If you can't see what's wrong with your comment, then you aren't event a decent person, let alone anywhere near being a good one.