By JayCee500 - 27/05/2014 23:05 - France - Paris

Today, I deliberately didn't tell my therapist half of what I was going through because I didn't want to depress her. FML
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JayCee500 2

I'm the OP. I posted this after my last session with my therapist--I'd realized that this particular person wasn't working for me because I didn't really connect with her to an extent where I'd be able to tell her all my problems. This is the first time I'm seeking therapy, and from what people have said, it sometimes takes a while to find someone you are truly comfortable with. Just to be clear--I don't think that my particular problems are at all special, and they aren't even that bad when compared with half the shit people I know go through. It was just getting to the point where I was deliberately excluding things that had happened to me/that I felt because I considered them too "pathetic" to share. You can probably guess that one of my problems is that I care way too much about how other people perceive me.

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ohcheriecherie 20

I've done that before, OP. at some point you gotta talk, or find a therapist you can open up to.

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JuzReading 23

Your therapist is someone who you should trust enough to share your problems with and in return gain support and help. As they say, don't bottle everything up inside! A problem shared is a problem halved... or something like that.

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Thunderlaxus 10

I'm studying to become a therapist, and i'll tell you two things: 1. By holding back you're only screwing yourself over, and making her job harder for her. 2. If she's good, she probably knows you're holding back, unless you're an amazing actor.

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tj5810 21

I'm a psych major and I was thinking the same thing... that, or maybe she's just too emotionally unstable to be a therapist. Either way, all signs point to getting a new therapist.

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laden_swallow09 34

Not seeing any problems on the therapist's part. Why bother getting another one?

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aedan12 15

You sure you're on the same page, 21? Sounds to me like you're blaming the therapist. Anyway, OP, I am training to be a social worker and let me tell you that therapists have to train themselves not to be emotionally invested in their patients or they will burn out quickly. If your therapist is any good, you can trust them not to take your feelings and internalize them. Fun fact, did you know that most therapist have been depressed at one point or another and have gone to see a therapist for themselves?

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VanOBrien 14

#58, I think that #21 was talking about therapist's emotional detachment from their clientele. And how some have a more difficult time than others with it. But that is just my guess.

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littlemoon23 7

From what I learned in my psychology classes is that therapists see other therapists. It's impossible for a therapist not to feel anything for the people they are consulting. It's human nature. If they don't they can easily get burned out, depressed and may, God forbid, kill themselves. But that doesn't keep them from wanting to help you. It takes a special person to become a therapist. They want to help people and make the world a better place for you and everyone.

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callmepandah 12

I've been there before. But I think it'll get easier after a couple of times. It is her job so. Be strong (:

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Vanshikap 24

tell her OP,she probably knows ur holding back,and you'll feel better once your done. if its helps,she's probably seen worse. good luck,lets hope it all works out.

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Gittoh 21

I know how you feel, some things are just too exstreme to be shared, even with a therapist. But you pay her to do her job, helping you! You are wasting money and you are making her job a lot harder. Not to blame you, I do the same thing with my therapist :(

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fsomelife 26

Try to tell her more. It's likely that she's seen most, if not all, pieces of your whole picture, and she'll be okay. Good luck in your future, all the best to you!

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winchestinalock 21

you made a good start OP but it's their job, it's what you're paying them to do and since they chose this line of work they must be skilled in handling such stuff...either find someone you're comfortable to talk to or open up to them, hope life turns around fpr you though! :)

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Adam5858 17

Honestly you would need to thell him/her as thqts their job.Maybe get a new one if its the person you cant open up to

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FranklySpeaking 11

That's very kind that you're considering the emotions of your therapist. Unfortunately, she isn't in the position to be "spared" details that may/may not influence treatment.

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