Date night

By feminist - 17/06/2009 15:25 - Canada

Today, I got into a heated argument at a restaurant with a guy I am seeing because he refused to let me pay for the bill and I thought it was sexist. When he finally agreed, I gave the waiter my card, only to have him return a minute later telling me it was declined. FML
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organismal 0

girl, it's just polite, classy, traditional. get over yourself it's nothing to get in a heated argument about, either. come on, if you offer to pay half and he declines, accept graciously. it makes you seem like less of a bitch.

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britches 0

Wow...there's really no need to get into a heated argument about it.

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jSOPURE 3

Psh. Pulling the old "Card declined" trick. Total sexist move. =/

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RhymePrime 7

Congratulations on contributing to the notions that sustain sexism.

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forthelulz_fml 0

You're insane. A man being polite and paying for a woman in no way dictates that she is beneath him. If anything, it would place the woman above the man. Stupid damn feminazis, you just have to construe everything that is good and courteous into something that oppresses women, don't you? There are things that oppress women. A man insisting upon paying or holding a door is not one of them. Jesus.

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IamSpartacus 0

Feminist = sexist. Men and women don't have equal rights, they have different rights though. Males are always going go farther in athletics (we should all know that) and all of the feminists that try and prove their capabilities are just not accepting the FACTS. Woman are always going to be better at cleaning, though. It's not sexist if you are stating the truth, UNLESS you are trying to make fun of them, or look down on them. Paying for dinner has nothing to do with looking down upon woman. Even if the woman was poor, the man would still be doing a nice thing. And even if she was rich, she shouldn't care. If she was in the middle, she should just accept it. A man paying for a woman is normal, a kind gesture. A woman wanting to pay her share is fine. A woman calling the man a sexist, is stupid, and she she is actually the sexist one.

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eskimonuts17 0

Would anyone agree that a woman assuming the man is going to pay is sexist?

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thecapitalist 0

Wow. Ridiculous. Feminism is the sole reason as to why chivalry, and men acting as gentlemen have disappeared. The man offers to pay the bill, and instead of politely declining, or letting him pay it (both would be acceptable), you decide to throw a fit and describe the situation as "sexist". OK, let's play feminism then. From now on, drive yourself to the date, walk yourself to the door, buy your own meal, hold open your own door, pull out your own chair, etc. etc. Men (at least ones with a good upbringing) are taught at a young age to treat women with respect, and to treat them as ladies. This is not sexism, it is a courtesy and an act of politeness. If you not only decline the courtesy and the politeness, but throw it back in the man's face and ridicule him, you deserve it, and I sincerely hope you never find a man who will put up with you. Enough of this crap!

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lmmmr 0

As a feminist, absolutely, though that deals more with queer/gender studies. It's an example of someone being held to a particular set of expectations based on their gender, which is sexism. So all of those girls who expect "their man" to open doors and pay simply because they are male are, in fact sexist.

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SICEM88 0

If I was on a date with a girl and she refused to let me pay to the extent we starting arguing, I would say, "well, if you insist on paying that badly you can also pay for your ride home" and then I'd leave. And if her card was declined that's just icing on the cake.

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funnystories 0

Wow im sorryvi have to respod to this one. You are an idiot, YDI and wow guys ffer to pay bills. What dumass finds that sexist!!!

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THC_fml 0

He wasn't being sexist, idiot. He was being polite -_- YDI

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myfishisBOBA 0

If he didn't offer at all and expected YOU to pay, then he would be a deadbeat! ...Or something along those lines. I guarantee you would not be impressed if he did not offer to pay. But I don't understand how you would view it as SEXIST. Did he say, (or imply) "now that i bought you dinner, you have to suck my dick, bitch!" Probably not. People need to appreciate others generosity or it will disappear :/ I wouldn't consider the OP a FEMINIST... just stubborn/dramatic girl who is not very bright (it's important yet easy to keep track of your money!) REAL feminist often strive to fight for more significant issues, not petty arguments like this. YDI!

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