How does an EX have any say in how you feel or celebrate your advancement? He can take his little box of hurt feelings and F off.

Congrats! There was a time (I was in school] when my wife was the sole breadwinner and making handily more than I was once I did have a job. I loved it! it helped provide for the Family. I would contribute with an immaculate apartment and meals. His view was very old-fashioned at best. Extremely childish. I hope you have other friends you can celebrate with.

I think it’s safe to say, **** that guy.

If he feels that strongly about it, then the easy solution is to be better. If outranking and out-earning your girlfriend is a core part of your identity, then get out there and do it. It doesn't count as you being better if you have to hold someone else back.

the only fml here is that you wasted so much time with that loser.Good on you for making the wise choice. That promotion helped you dodge a bullet.