What are you on? No parent, even open minded parents like my mom, wants their kid having sex when they're young. A parent would DEFINITELY want their kid having sex for the first time in their 40's rather than in their teens. Most teens aren't emotionally ready for the commitment, many aren't responsible enough to be careful of STIs, and no teen is ready for a baby. Yes, the parents should talk to their kids about protection and such, but in the end, it is never better to have sex early. I don't find anything wrong with premarital sex, I'm just saying, sex is better when the people involved are 100% ready and prepared. Oh, and I'm 18 and my parents don't allow boys in my room.

batmanfish, you're saying that most teens are not prepared for sex. You're mistaking. Among the teens who haven't got a clue about what sex actually is, there are teens who know what they're doing and what they can get themselves into. I know alot of people in real life, and online too for that matter, who are 14,15 and 16 years old and they all have lost their virginity, and did so in a responsible way (condom). Sure there are teens who have no idea what they're getting themselves into, and do it because they think it's cool, or, mostly in the case of a young girl, get manipulated into having sex by mainly their boyfriends, but that's not the majority. The majority of the teens realizes the dangers of unprotected sex, mainly because of what they've heard on TV, from parents, at sex ed etc. and actually think and use a condom before they act and have sex. Being honest to your child about sex gets you alot further than simply not allowing them to have it. Every teen should have sex at a certain point, it's a big part of life. It means more to lose your virginity on the age of 16 than losing it on the age of 40. Don't take this the wrong way, but I think all parents who don't allow someone the opposite sex as their son/daughter in their rooms are horrible parents. It's really not helping. They're denying them a big part of their life and that's not okay. Like I said, if they'd simply stop being embaressed about the subject and explain the dangers with their children, and ofcourse if their children are willing to listen to them, they should accept the fact that their son/daughter having sex, as long as it's with a condom, will not be the end of the world. Though I feel like it's a bit different in the case of a girl. A boy losing his virginity is generally not such a big deal for the parents, as long as he did it safe, than a girl losing her virginity. For example my younger brother is 15, and if he'd lose his virginity I basically couldn't care less. On the other hand, I have a younger sister at the age of 14, if she'd lose her virginity to some guy I'd have the urge to strangle the guy who took it. In the OP's case, she was denying her son to have sex. That's really, really, really not helping him, as soon as he's on his own he'll do anything his mother has forbidden him to do, which would've included (unprotected) sex. The chances of him having unprotected sex when he's on his own are simply higher than when he's still living with his parents, as long as his parents are willing to stop being embaressed and talk about the dangers of sex, because if the parents would simply not talk about it he wouldn't know what to do, unless the parents talked about safe sex. Believe me, when someone is about to have sex for the first time, they remember everything their parents told them about it. It must be noted that I would've had some sort of understanding if the child the OP mentioned was a girl.

Wow, the whole "I'd understand if it was a girl" thing is SUCH a horrible double standard. And just because some teens are responsible does not mean they are ready. There is a huge difference. My mom talks to me about sex all the time and I have 14 condoms in my room waiting to be used. When I have sex, I will be extremely prepared and responsible, but I'm not emotionally ready. Nor am I financially ready. A couple at my high school that used at least 1 type of protection ever time recently had a baby. There are no guarantees with sex and parents are scared of that for all their children, even when that child is someone like my 16-year-old brother. I agree with what you are saying about many teens being responsible and knowing the risks. Many are probably even emotionally ready. But again, being responsible and being ready are not the same thing. And few parent want their financially dependent child that doesn't even have a high school education to run the risk of landing themselves with an extremely expensive 18+ year consequence.

It's just how I, and I'm probably not alone in that, feel. For a young girl to lose her virginity is a bigger deal than a young boy to lose his virginity. To both the girl and the parents. You raise a good point. A slim chance it may be, even safe sex may result in pregnancy. But the fact remains that every person gets these urges at a certain point and want to have sex: for parents to simply forbid them to have sex is wrong. Ofcourse they're worried, it's completely understandeable, but if their child feel like he/she is ready, and knows to only have safe sex, there's really nothing else they should do. If they forbid their child to have sex or don't talk about sex with them when it's pretty clear that the child wants to have sex, the chance that when they move out they're going to have sex, Possibly unprotected, is rather big. Parents need to let their children know that sex can be dangerous without forbidding them to have it. I feel like it just doesn't work any other way.

I think we've come to an agreement. Of course young adults want to have sex and it is very important that parents educate their kids. They can't keep their children from having sex, so while they're not going to want it to happen, they should make sure their kids are at least safe.

1. i do agree with you 2. they dont alow boys in your room? 18?......wow. funny thing is most people dont lose there virginity in there room. when there is a will theres a way. besides if i had a child id let an opposite gender in id just check up on them. simple as that

#387, are you saying that girls have to be older than guys do to have sex? Doesn't that sound a little sexist to you? OP, YDI for being a closed-minded, overly restrictive dumbass. If you don't even let him have a girl in his room, then you need a serious reality check. I would congratulate your son on actually having the intelligence to dodge your ridiculous rules.