Today, I started to hate being the "mentally stable friend" because my friends will be talking about mental health and I've got to be the 'all smiles and positive' person who gives them hope in life, but the second I falter I can see everyone shift and I'm just not. Allowed. To. FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I came to the unpleasant realization that my friends only keep me around because I’m nice, know when to keep my mouth shut, and am willing to listen to them vent. In short, I’m the therapist friend. FML
Today, I finally shared some of my insecurities and difficulties I’m experiencing with a close friend. The response was great, they listened, and gave advice. Later I met another friend, who said that they’re here for me. Everyone was just trying to help, but now almost everyone I know knows. I feel worse than before. FML
Today, my best friend said we couldn't be friends anymore because I'm too depressed or too happy all the time. After explaining for half an hour what bipolar depression was and how I have it he just said, "Bullshit!" FML
Today, I've come to accept that while my family claims to be supportive of my disabilities, they become completely ableist whenever they're the source of the problem, or if my problems otherwise have a direct effect on them. I have no real friends in this world. FML
Today, my friends and I noticed that people, no matter what stereotype, pretty much all have the same type of friends: the mean one, the funny one, etc., and started naming off the people in our group who fit into those personalities. We got to the token fat one, everyone looked at me and stopped talking. FML
Today, just because I have mental health issues doesn’t mean I’m the god of mental health issues. I don’t know everything. But everyone thinks I do. I want to help but it takes a piece out of me every time someone sends me someone hurting. Yes I help them, but it hurts me. FML
Today, my coworker was talking to me about how there's always that one person in a group of friends that everyone secretly dislikes and laughs at. I realized that that person is me. FML
Today, my coworker was talking to me about how there's always that one person in a group of friends that everyone secretly dislikes and laughs at. I realized that person is me. FML
Today, my friend needed to talk out bad feelings. Then she urged me to open up as well. I hate doing it, but it only seemed fair, so I confessed my deep insecurities. Not only did she agree with everything, but she also helpfully added that I'm boring, have no life, and all my dreams are unattainable. FML
Today, my friend, knowing my mental health is really bad right now, decided to yell out the fact I have an eating disorder, and how she never sees me eat ever, then started to talk about self-harm and how she would never do it despite what she has gone through. All while side-eyeing me when talking to other people. FML
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UsernameNotRandom 10
They aren't your friends then. If you can't show an ounce of emotion or even be allow to be sad - like they can around you - then they aren't your friends and they are using you as an emotional dumping bag. Being positive all the time isn't healthy. Everyone has bad days and if you can't express it to those who express theirs to you. They aren't your friends. It isn't healthy. And you will end up worse off. Get some real friends who support you as much as you support them in tough times - I urge you.
FluffythePink 23
They aren't treating you like a friend, they're using you as their emotional support human. That's not right or fair. The other poster is 100% right, you need much better friends than this lot. If support doesn't go both ways, you are being used.
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UsernameNotRandom 10
They aren't your friends then. If you can't show an ounce of emotion or even be allow to be sad - like they can around you - then they aren't your friends and they are using you as an emotional dumping bag. Being positive all the time isn't healthy. Everyone has bad days and if you can't express it to those who express theirs to you. They aren't your friends. It isn't healthy. And you will end up worse off. Get some real friends who support you as much as you support them in tough times - I urge you.
FluffythePink 23
They aren't treating you like a friend, they're using you as their emotional support human. That's not right or fair. The other poster is 100% right, you need much better friends than this lot. If support doesn't go both ways, you are being used.
Gubbon 17
Strange punctuation.