Today, a guy I had been casually seeing asked me to dinner. Thinking he could be wanting to make things serious, I got all dressed up. Turns out he got a girlfriend and just wanted to tell me in person to avoid things being awkward. We then waited in silence for our meal. FML
moneybenny
Richmond, Australia
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moneybenny 10
And to anyone saying I could have left... He picked me up in his car and drove me to the place. The car ride home was equally fun.
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whiskeey 14
Well good thing it wasn't awkward or anything right?
LissaMccracken 23
You didn't have to wait in silence with him, you could have just left...
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whiskeey 14
Well good thing it wasn't awkward or anything right?
L2U7A_E5I9A2E8H 20
Yep, nothing like getting dressed up for someone whos breaking up with you
Demig0d6 14
Free meal... What's there to complain
badluckalex 23
15- they were never together. they were, as op put it, "casually seeing each other".
GraceyBlueEyes 13
68 would it be: '..."casually seeing" each other.'? I'm terrible at English but as far as I tell only direct quotes go in the quotation marks? Correct me if I'm wrong.
Ashleynne391 1
You are correct!
GraceyBlueEyes 13
Oh yay down votes for learning! Upvotes/down votes don't matter but love the negativity towards someone trying to become better at something. Besides you, 90, you're awesome!
ladyLALAA 29
At least the guy was decent about it. Nothing worse than a text break up!
JennaNGood 21
And then after you've eaten, walk out and stick him with the bill.
TheTacoMan 24
And then he will leave his new girlfriend with the bill
L2U7A_E5I9A2E8H 20
And make it expensive
ladybugz23 13
walk out ..... its not a date.
Kamon97 23
What a jackass he should've just told her instead of teasing her with a dinner >.>
Nickb55 16
This is terribly rude! He took her out to dinner to tell her this! I would assume that he's paying anyways but I could think of worse ways to tell them something they don't want to hear!
1dvs_bstd 41
i think a call would have been sufficient but dial it back, what he did wasn't horrible, just unnecessary.
JennaNGood 21
19, who ever said that the action of walking out was exclusive to dates?
HanBroman 20
He's just an idiot. I don't think he meant any harm, he probably thought breaking up in person was the kindest way of doing it. perhaps he still really wanted to be your friend and hoped the feelings would be mutual enough for the dinner to continue smoothly. he's a moron for assuming this though.
zandalee 20
Walk out with head held high and don't look back.
meganlovestea 15
Well that's kinda harsh. I think he tried to mean well at least by telling her in person. Just over dinner isn't the best way to do it. I wouldn't walk out and order a bunch of expensive stuff just to leave him with the bill, that's just mean, they were only casually dating anyway.
thatsawkward7 18
He better have paid for the meal.
papashaan 19
It could be worse... It could be me
IllestRated 17
You're a cheater and a liar?
KushCrushin89 10
Cheater and liar? If you classify it as "casually seeing each other", then you should not expect to be exclusive. And if you're not exclusive there is no cheating.
LissaMccracken 23
You didn't have to wait in silence with him, you could have just left...
mageepaigeee44 15
Yea I would have just left. I think he was trying to be respectable by telling her like that but she shouldn't have felt obligated to stay.
the_zero_article 15
Hell no, I'd want my dinner and stick that insignificant twat with the bill
TrippingOnAcid 29
Maybe she was just hungry
GraceyBlueEyes 13
53, how's he a twat? He was just trying to do the right thing. Perhaps it should have been over coffee or something instead. Better than just never calling again.
bobbyguy 17
You should have asked him if it was a date or just having dinner as friends. And I didn't see the need to get dressed up if you know the person.
iAlissa 34
So #33, you're saying you base whether you look nice or not on the chance of having sex later? Repulsive.
flame5768 14
no. he's not. don't be a dick. but i guess you are what you eat.
doctorhook86 25
#50, I'm honestly curious because I don't think I understand this convo, but why is that repulsive? Do you dress up all the time? Or is it repulsive because #33 dresses up to improve his chances of sex? It seems like as good a reason as any, but I wish I understood your complaint better. (Fully expecting to be downvoted to Hell for daring to ask.)
TheFellyBelly 8
I don't see why a person wouldn't dress to impress. In my opinion isn't that why anyone dresses up nice for the opposite sex (atleast in a date situation). If you showed up looking like a slob I know I wouldn't want to do anything with you, regardless if you are a man or a woman. The more you impress the person the more chance of getting some booty. So why not?
GraceyBlueEyes 13
Is it repulsive because you imply that not dressing up means not looking nice? Or because sometimes looking nice increases the chance of sex? Or maybe you are one of those people who cannot leave the house without spending minimum an hour on your appearance. On your profile you say you don't bite but you have already proven to be quite the bitch.
xNephilim 19
Not a single thing she said makes it okay for you to call her a bitch - she actually had valid points. People dress up to reach certain goals. You dress up for a job interview to impress the interviewer and get the job. You dress nicely for work to have a professional air about you. You dress up for a date to look nice for your date, because that's just what you do. It's nice to dress up. It boosts self esteem, it makes people look at you different... It is NOT a bad thing. And who knows, they may have gone to a fancy restaurant! You're supposed to wear dressier clothes to those.
GraceyBlueEyes 13
Pretty sure her saying it was repulsive is a bitchy thing to say and I stand by it. I was also saying theres nothing wrong with dressing up even if it's for sex? Not sure if you are confused with who I aimed it at (33).
Nickb55 16
At least he took you out to dinner! He thought of a nice way to try to tell you!
flee2321 10
I think going out for a beer or ice cream or anything not as long as a whole meal would have been smarter. You can pay upfront. Explain while drinking the beer and then everyone leaves. Much better IMO.
Brandi_Faith 34
40, True, your idea is much better. But I bet the guy wasn't thinking clearly cause he felt bad and thought his only options were text, call, or in person, and he probably didn't want it to seem like he was making small of their relationship by just saying it and leaving, hence the dinner. But I think just saying it and leaving probably would've been less awkward and better for both. Bet he's wishing he did it short and sweet now.
sneeze_watch 19
This kind of situation is where you GET A TO-GO BOX instead of sitting in horrible, awkward silence for an entire meal.
iLike2Teabag 27
A place you would dress up to go to probably won't be a take-out place though.
smokecloud_ 37
I don't know of any restaurant other than a buffet where you can't get food to go. I work at a nice Italian place and we do carry outs all the time.
DarkPandaXD 15
Well, better to find out now than later.
zoegirl_455 30
Guess he didn't avoid the awkward part like he hoped