Today, my Tinder date said it wasn’t gonna work, all because, I “need to lose some extra pounds.” Last week, I'd had another Tinder date and he told me he’d continue seeing me if I dropped at least 30 pounds. I think I get the hint now. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, my Tinder date took one look at me and left, because, "the camera" made me "look thick" and he, "can’t date a skinny bitch." FML
Today, a girl I met on Tinder described herself as curvy and sent me pictures. We agreed to meet and let me say… those pictures were at least 10 years and 15 stone ago. She was no longer curvy or even just overweight, she was grossly obese. I could smell the unwashed skin under her fat rolls. FML
Today, I came to terms with the fact that in order to get a boyfriend, I need to slim down. When I put full-body shots on dating apps, I get swiped left on. But when I put headshots, I get matches. And lots of them. But I can’t catfish these dudes. Time to go on a diet and hit the gym. It’s not fair. FML
Today, I showed up to my Bumble date with a guy. He looked at me up and down and said, "You look different from the pictures. I pictured you more slimmer." To rub salt in the wound, he proclaimed, "I’d rather staple my nutsack than continue this date. Good luck to you," and walked off. FML
Today, a guy I was into and who denied me because he “saw me as a friend only” began to date another girl. I asked him, “Why her and not me?” and he wouldn’t tell me. After pestering him, he finally caved in, saying, “Fine, plus sized girls are not my thing. Happy now?” So in other words, I have to lose weight to find love. FML
Today, I went to a Speed Dating event because the apps just ain’t doing it for me. After a while of talking, the first guy I sat with told me, “You are way too out of shape to have high standards and expectations.” I got up and left the place in tears. This is the world of dating while plus-sized. FML
Today, the man I've liked for so long asked me out on a date. Three years ago I fell for him and he denied me unless I "lost 100lbs” Now I've lost about 85lbs (not because of him, but for myself) and he wants to give me the time of day. I still like him, but I feel like I have to watch my weight to keep him if I say “Yes.” FML
Today, my girlfriend dumped me because I've recently become serious about getting fit, and have lost nearly 84 pounds. Apparently, when I was fat, I made her look smaller in comparison. When I got slimmer, she insisted I either gain the weight back or she'd leave. So she did. FML
Today, my boyfriend admitted to purposely sabotaging all my weight loss efforts. When I confronted him, he said it’s because he doesn’t want me to get thin and turn into one of those stuck up, snobby, mean girl types that wouldn’t date him in high school. We’re in our 30s dude, get over it! FML
Today, a guy I know asked me out after me losing 75lbs. I declined because I don’t want to be with someone who only wants me for my body. I asked him, “Where was this energy two years ago when I was 75lbs heavier?” He replied, “Can you blame me?” And people wonder why us women choose the bear. FML
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Marcella1016 32
Man it sounds like guys on Tinder can be such assholes. There’s a whole Reddit with screenshots of very cringeworthy messages from guys on there. (And yes, women too before anyone gets their panties in a bunch about reverse sexism or whatever.) Something about this internet age seems to be making people more rude and just straight-up dicks. The anonymity of the internet encourages people to say what they want with no filter and no consequences, and maybe that’s bleeding over into real life. Yuck. OP, screw those assholes (figuratively, not literally) and move on to find someone worthy of you! And you can work on weight loss or fitness goals if that’s what *you* want to do for your own well-being and happiness. Good luck continuing your navigation of the Tinder minefield!
Royal Sataness 4
put a current picture up that shows what you actually look like. plenty of guys are assholes, but there are also guys who will either accept or prefer you the way you are. there are plenty of people that you are just right for. if you are not Enough for them, that is a them problem not a you problem
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Marcella1016 32
Man it sounds like guys on Tinder can be such assholes. There’s a whole Reddit with screenshots of very cringeworthy messages from guys on there. (And yes, women too before anyone gets their panties in a bunch about reverse sexism or whatever.) Something about this internet age seems to be making people more rude and just straight-up dicks. The anonymity of the internet encourages people to say what they want with no filter and no consequences, and maybe that’s bleeding over into real life. Yuck. OP, screw those assholes (figuratively, not literally) and move on to find someone worthy of you! And you can work on weight loss or fitness goals if that’s what *you* want to do for your own well-being and happiness. Good luck continuing your navigation of the Tinder minefield!
RichardPencil 32
There's no doubt that if you lose weight, you will have more options. Or, you could select from among those who will like you the way you are. I'm guessing your Tinder profile pic is misleading. If you choose the latter route, put a more realistic pic online so you'll only attract viable candidates.
Brightside86 31
Why does this have downvotes?
RichardPencil 32
It's so unfair! I speak the plain but harsh truth.
weirdncrazy 25
Screw those guys! You feeling happy in your own body is way more important. Wether thats a bigger or a smaller body. Stay true to yourself :)
Royal Sataness 4
put a current picture up that shows what you actually look like. plenty of guys are assholes, but there are also guys who will either accept or prefer you the way you are. there are plenty of people that you are just right for. if you are not Enough for them, that is a them problem not a you problem
And1 12
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That is humongously wrong, gigantically rude! Don’t let the lard-asses get away with this sort of blubber!! Give the chubsters fat lips! Or, even better ….teach them some compression by just sitting on them!!
Brightside86 31
I like that these men are so honest and direct with you. There's nothing wrong with knowing what you want and telling the truth to potential partners. In fact some studies have found that honesty and communication can often be really helpful in a relationship. Also 30 pounds is a lot, im a guy and if I went from my healthy 160 to 190 that would significantly increase my health risk for all sorts of conditions.
Brightside86 31
#1 fear for women in tinder is that they might get murdered. #1 fear for men is that the girl might be fat.
xingyibear 5
theyre ******* losers, first and foremost. second, if you decide to lose weight, do it for yourself or your health. not for some shallow potential partner who is selfish and self centered, that doesnt understand bodies can fluctuate for many reasons and should have no impact on their love for someone.