Today, in his will, my dad laid the blame squarely at my feet for his depression, alcoholism, liver failure, suicide attempt and eventual death, not because of anything I did, just for being born in the first place. He never wanted a kid, resented becoming a dad and drank to make the depression bearable. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, my dad told me quite bluntly that, while he loved me, he never planned to have me. My mom baby-trapped him by sabotaging their birth control methods, and my existence ruined his life irrevocably and caused the functional alcoholism he has suffered with for 40 years. FML
Today, my dad took me to a bar for my first legal drink. He quickly got "drunk" and started slurring that I was an accident, saying the only reason I'm alive is because he'd been too poor to pay for an abortion. As I started crying, he burst out laughing and said soberly, "Just kidding, son." FML
Today, I told my dad that failing to kill yourself must be really awful, because you think you’ve failed your life and then you even fail your death. My dad who, as I recalled when he shot me a sour look, tried to commit suicide during his youth. FML
Today, I located my birth dad and asked him why I was put into care. Turns out my mom died, and since he hadn’t wanted me in the first place, he just gave me away and hoped to never see me again. He didn’t even invite me in, he threw a beer at me and threatened to call the cops unless I left. FML
Today, my father told me that it wasn't that I was written out of his will, it's that he never thought to include me in the first place. FML
Today, it's my 15th birthday. My dad stumbled into my bedroom at six in the morning, completely drunk, and slurred the "Happy Birthday" song. Then he told me to go fuck myself, and said that he wished I was never born. Me too, dad. Me too. FML
Today, my dad thought it would be appropriate to get drunk at my wedding and include in his father of the bride speech all the very bad things I did as a child, before I got the psychiatric help I needed. My in-laws were giving me death glares, and his nana yelled, “Shame on you!” at me. FML
Today, after my dad recently had to go sober or face dying within a year, it turns out that without the alcohol, his personality still sucks. He used to be a drunk asshole, but now he’s just an asshole. At least when he was drunk he used to pass out. Now he can be an asshole all night without stopping. FML
Today, I learned from my dad that I'm astoundingly similar to my uncle, whom I never met. It was pretty cool to learn more about him, until my dad he told me that the reason he died so young is because he committed suicide. I've been suffering from severe depression since I was fourteen. Foreshadowing? I hope not. FML
Today, I opened up to my parents about my depression. Their response was to have a very heated discussion about whose fault it was. FML
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Plop 17
I don't want to sound heartless, but it really seems like your dad was a loser long before you were born, and is just blaming you for his own failures. Not all parents are deserving of love and respect, and it looks like your dad is a textbook example...
Bleh123 4
So ****** up.
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Plop 17
I don't want to sound heartless, but it really seems like your dad was a loser long before you were born, and is just blaming you for his own failures. Not all parents are deserving of love and respect, and it looks like your dad is a textbook example...
Bleh123 4
So ****** up.
bobsanction 18
That's your moms fault, not yours.
Tui Nathan 3
You mean both parents
princess_stabitty 20
If your dad never wanted to become a dad, then probably he should keep it in his pants and not stick it into your mother.
tounces7 28
You know, this isn't really about that though. What he said was horrible, but "blaming" him for her birth isn't much less horrible. He's obviously one person who should have simply been allowed to opt out of being a father, since he clearly wasn't a good one. We have to get past the whole "keep it in your pants" or "keep your legs crossed" nonsense. These are normal human urges, and people often DO do things to try to prevent pregnancy, that happen to fail on a regular basis.
Tui Nathan 3
😲Wow shit, that's rough! He's a ******* dick(no offence) it's not your fault.
Vesi 30
Why.. WHY would anyone say OP deserved this? No-one deserves to get treated like crap by their parent because they exist.
CowgirlWithHeart 16
If your dad knew he didn't want children that badly he could have made sure he didn't have any, it was his fault you were born, not yours. Don't blame yourself.
Sandra Petersen 2
My father didn't want any children either, but here I am. He made me feel so unwanted, worthless when I met him. I did nothing to him as well.
JasonThorn 23
"Dad, wherever you are...and if you can hear me over THE RAGING FLAMES...if I had ANY choice in the matter, what makes you think I would choose YOU...?"
IHaveThePower 18
That guy is an asshole and not worthy to be your father. I hope you find someone who can be a mentor in your life and actually values who you are.