Looks like both of you were surprised. I'd surprise her too! So he can end up single and alone like the total shitbag he is.

Yuck, but boyfriends are temporary, heck, even some marriages are. However, know that you deserve better, keep yourself uplifted untill you find the one who will be with you for the rest of your life and have family with. Some things are worth waiting for...partners come and go, you don't

Anyone else hear Shaggy singing it wasn't me?

Long distance relationships rarely work out unless the separation is temporary and you already had an in-person relationship. They too often end like this and it turns out one of them was married, already in a relationship, or just sleeping around. Look for an in-person relationship. It OK to meet online, but screen the options to those in your area so if the relationship should progress it does so in person. And driving or flying multiple states away occasionally for sex is not a real relationship.

that is when you walk into the bedroom and introduce yourself as his long distance girlfriend of 4 years, and say "did he tell you about me, if not wanna grab a cup of coffee and compare notes?"