I hate women like that. What does she expect? You not to work at all?

Tell you what. All the money you make on this, “vacation” you should keep for yourself. If she gets upset, just say it was made while, “on vacation”.

The last Work trip I went on was for a 3 day conference. My wife was determined that she was going no matter what. So she and the kid drove 16 hours and stayed in my hotel room. Then she was pissed that I didn’t get to spend any time with them bc I was doing work related stuff from 7am - 9pm between classes and mandatory social/networking stuff. So basically you are damned if you don’t and damned if you do.

Work trips are rarely enjoyable. Because of the high cost of sending people to remote sites to work, the company tends to expect to get a lot of work out of those workers. That means long, long work days and sheer exhaustion when the work day is over no matter how glamorous sounding the locale is. It’s tough for the wife too, especially a mother of young kids. She has all the household tasks to do and does not realize just how difficult it is to be working long hours offsite. Occasionally when you are working offsite you have chances to enjoy the scenery and take a much needed break. And when husband comes back they are more prone to talk about the few enjoyable times than all the long working days. And that creates an incorrect perception that it was a working “vacation.” OP my only practical short term advice is to call home every day at least once or twice so you are still communicating. When I was on the road working I called at the end of the work day and at bedtime. The best long term advice is that if your wife and family does not deal well with your occasional work travel you need to be looking for a job with less travel.

You need to sit down and talk to her about being an adult. Why does she hate the kids? Yes it hard to be a parent but sometimes you have to shoulder the burden . Ask her if she want you to quick your work and be a stay at home and she is working? She needs to understand you are not on vacation and also you might need to go family therapy and work it all out. My dad has through my life always called when he worked away.

Is she fuc*king stupid, or what?