Your dad is right, but you need to stand up to him, not your boyfriend. Incidentally, how was the facial you received from your boyfriend?

sorry i bumped the laughing face

He’s projecting his own faults.

My mom did the same thing to me. My bf stayed the weekend with us, and my mom had us putting together a bookshelf. My bf ended up letting me do the whole thing because I said I didn’t need help, but we flirt fought the whole time (we weren’t actually fighting, our flirting just comes across that way). After he left, my mom said that he was treating me disrespectfully and that, had I not driven him down, she would have kicked him out then and there. Not a word was said about the fact that the entire time, my brother was treating me like I wasn’t competent enough to follow instructions and build a piece of furniture.

Put a pillow over your dads face when he sleeps... Problem solved. just kidding.

Tell your dad, girls grow up to date men like their fathers....

Good thing you specified cake frosting.

Hey, guys! It's the OP here. I'm surprised but happy this one mainfeeded, so thanks for your votes! (By the way, I don't know why it states I'm a male on the post. Maybe just a glitch in the system.) To give you all some background, my boyfriend and I were having some fun. He's a joker and loves messing around. We made cake, so after dinner, he smashed icing in my face. It was pretty funny. The next day I took my dad to his dentist appointment, and that was when he expressed how he didn't like what my man did. To make it worse, he's pointed out how stupid I am ever since I was a teen, which does hurt my self-esteem. I did let him know long ago that I don't like it, but it went in one ear and out the other. If I were to tell him that during the car ride, nothing would change besides creating drama. However, I did say that the whole icing thing was a joke, which he said was "taken too far." I don't even understand that....I wrote this FML when I was frustrated, after logging into my profile for the first time in a long while. Again, thank you guys for the support. As for those who did the opposite, well, I guess you're like my dad.

I don't know how much consolation this is, but maybe the reason he says you're stupid so much is just because he wants you to do better for yourself, and maybe the reason he got mad about your boyfriend smearing cake on you was because he views it as physical bullying or potential physical abuse. He might not be showing it well or saying it in the best way, but I think when it comes down to it, you're father really loves and cares about you.

I would cut off contact with anyone, even a parent, that called me stupid everyday for years. I cut my toxic, alcoholic paternal DNA contributor when I was 14, because he refused to get help for his alcoholism, though that's not the only reason behind it. The alcoholism fueled a lot of the other things he did, and I was willing to try and work through it in family therapy, once he'd been treated the alcoholism. I refused to let him treat me the way he did and my life has been ao much better without him in it.