i think that's pretty gay

I'm not homophobic. I had a gay relative who died of AIDS before anyone knew what either of the two were. He was honest about it. I don't have a problem with gay peeps. Do you. I'm just saying that you need to be honest about what you like. I'm a 26 year old black woman, the demographic comprising the largest group of new HIV/AIDS cases. Black women just like me are DYING everyday of HIV/AIDS related complications because the men in their lives insist on living a lie by being on the "DL". Read up on it. Read the articles, books, and stats. I have no problem with gay men or women; just be honest about what/who it is you like and like to do. Viva la gay revolucion!

#32, I missed your first post, but I don't see how this is gay. Sexuality is a sliding scale. It's some kind of polarity thing. I can understand some people being in to this and others not being in to it.. regardless of sexuality.

i agree with #13 on this one, i mean, if he's up for it, why not? Not often that guys are willing to take what they usually only dish out.

If a girl's plowing you in the arse it's definitely not gay. Lots of guys are just insecure lamers.

That sounds so hot. I would totally be down! Although, I admit, it probably would have been nice to have a bit of a heads up.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! Priceless story.

I think it's sweet that he trusts you enough to ask. You should try to be more understanding. I mean, he was of you after all.

It's a free country. What you do in the privacy of your own home/bedroom is your business. If he wants to get f***** six ways to Sunday with ****** in every orifice, that’s his choice. I don’t care. But if I were his gf, I would ask myself why he would spring this on me during sex and not sit down and have a open conversation with me about his preferences. That might send up a red flag to me about the other things he’s been hiding and might prefer. I’d want to know exactly how long he has had this fantasy? Has he ever tried it before? With what sex has he tried it? How are would this fantasy go? I’d be asking questions. All I’m saying is that now is probably a good time and have a heart-to-heart. I am not advocating homophobia. In fact, I wish that people would be more open about their choices. As I have gotten older, I’ve realized that certain people will not accept you no matter what, so I think that you should be you, regardless of the consequences. I am advocating open, honest communication and calling things what they are. Again, as a black woman with the numbers going against me, I can’t help but feel compelled to feel the way I do. If he’s gay, so be it. He just needs to be open and honest about it so that he can proceed safely. Peeps, read the articles, books, magazines, journals, blogs about how the “DL” lifestyle is killing the black community, especially black women. I’m just saying.

Ah. I understand where you are coming from completely.