What if he "extends himself" to make her feel appreciated every other day of the year? Yeah that doesn't sound bitter at all. A lot of people don't celebrate birthdays or anniversaries. It's not selfish or inconsiderate, it's their own personal beliefs. And those beliefs are to be respected just as much as the idiotic belief that Valentines day is really about love and affection. Yes OP, dump the guy who isn't brainwashed into thinking that THIS ONE DAY is the only day to PROVE his love for you. Women who think like that make me ashamed of my ******.

It's a matter of mis-matched expectations. He's selfish and inconsiderate if V-Day means something to her and he decides to take the opposite stance anyway. Granted, he can't be a jerk the 364 other days of the year either. Since this couple has different needs, he ought to find someone whose personal beliefs are not to celebrate special occasions and she should look for someone who likes to celebrate occasions like V-Day. Neither stance is wrong when each is with the right partner. And, I'd bet money that he'll turn into a total cupid on V-Day if he was with the woman right for him and she wouldn't care about V-Day gifts if she was with the man right for her.

I think you're misinterpreting what #46 said. It's not a matter of "she agrees with evil capitalist holiday and he doesn't, therefore he should change his beliefs." Whatever his thinking, V-day is clearly important to her, and if he really cared about her that deeply he would find some way to acknowledge its importance to her -- and not necessarily through expensive gifts either. My boyfriend is not a big fan of V-day, but he knows I have always wanted to have a "romantic" V-day (hasn't worked out that way in my past relationships), so while we are keeping it small we are making a point of spending the day together because it's *important to me*. Likewise, even though I find football incredibly boring, I made a point of watching the SuperBowl with him and trying to get into it because its *important to him*. That's how it works when you really care about the other person. For that matter, my ex took a completely "practical" stance on V-day (that it was stupid, a waste of money and time, etc.), and that was an indicator of what we eventually discovered through other means-- we needed to find other people. It's not like I would have said, "Oh he didn't buy me a present, he's history," but our differences on V-Day indicated that we were actually pretty different types of people -- I am a hopeless romantic, he thought romance was silly. Now I'm dating another hopeless romantic and it works much better.

Ya but I'm sure you'll make it up another night that you are together since you'll be apart on that day. You'll still celebrate your love.

Asking your boyfriend to celebrate Valentine's Day isnt asking that much. She didn't say she wanted a diamond necklace, she just wants to celebrate, even something is better than nothing. Even if you disagree with VDay or if she sees where he's coming from, it can get lonely when everyone around is getting love and attention and you are not

What he doesn't know is that he is getting the manager's sloppy seconds. Her stockings are never on quite as straight after lunch.