Not your problem

By Anonymous - 16/01/2026 09:00

Today, I saw a good friend beg and crawl back to her controlling girlfriend who treats her like a child for the umpteenth time, even after herself acknowledging that she got mistreated. I don't know what else to do to help her, or if I even should. FML

I agree, your life sucks 164

You deserved it 38

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Be the change you want to see in the world

By Anonymous - 31/08/2025 20:00 - United States

Today, unfortunately, my friend is a victim of domestic violence and I want to be there for her. The dilemma is that I was abused for 7 months by one of her buddies and she's basically making it out as if it didn't happen. Basically downplaying my trauma all because it's her "homie." Double standards or what? FML

I agree, your life sucks 455

You deserved it 111

Can't help myself

By NotLearning - 18/01/2023 14:00

Today, I agreed to help a "friend" again, after only finding out yesterday she'd been lying to me. FML

I agree, your life sucks 276

You deserved it 917

It doesn't work like that

By Comeon - 02/07/2023 06:00

Today, the girl of my dreams rejected my advances once again. This is a girl who’s had her heart broken over and over again by cheaters and abusers. She can’t even recognize something great, even if it’s staring at her in the face. What do I have to do to end her vicious cycle of endless heartbreak? FML

I agree, your life sucks 187

You deserved it 1 879

Healthy marriage

By I'mmessedup - 11/08/2022 21:00 - United States - Cedar Falls

Today, I was told I should try treating my wife the way she treats me when I seek out her affection, so she can see how bad it hurts. Not only could I never do that to her, but that would require her attempting to show me even the simplest form of affection. FML

I agree, your life sucks 1 001

You deserved it 162

Alexa, play "Bet She's Not Your Girlfriend" by Pet Shop Boys

By Anonymous - 01/06/2024 17:00 - United States

Today, my girlfriend went back to her ex for the fourth time. I don’t know why I keep going back knowing that will happen, but… FML

I agree, your life sucks 113

You deserved it 858

Seek help

By Anonymous - 26/09/2022 12:00

Today, my girlfriend chose to hate-stalk her ex-best friend's social media, then angrily rant to me for over an hour about what she saw. This happens three or four times a week. They last spoke over a decade ago. The last time I suggested therapy, she didn't speak to me for a week. FML

I agree, your life sucks 1 082

You deserved it 250

Brave and honest

By Anonymous - 10/04/2024 14:00 - Canada - Edmonton

Today, I realized that the woman I love, who is my best friend, deserves better than me at the nadir of my life. We're still just friends, but she's been a much better friend to me than I have been to her. It's time to disappear and fix myself. FML

I agree, your life sucks 138

You deserved it 444

You can talk to us

By Lonely Loser - 27/07/2021 02:01 - United States

Today, I started self-harming again. My therapist keeps switching the subject when I try to bring it up, and my best friend has called me attention-seeking and selfish so many times in the past year that I’m too scared to ask for her support. I have nobody else to talk to. FML

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You deserved it 263

Go away now

By Anywhozit - 20/05/2025 13:00 - United States

Today, after I tried to give a friend I had for ten years a second chance, after we had a bad falling out because it was "too much for her" that I had a life changing accident and was not upbeat about it, needless to say she has been obnoxious these past 6 months and I should not have let her selfish butt back in. FML

I agree, your life sucks 314

You deserved it 182

The road to Hell is paved with good intentions

By Anonymous - 22/04/2017 23:00 - United Kingdom

Today, my best female friend got dumped. Seeing how I was alone when I got dumped, I didn't want her to feel the same, so I was nice to her and tried to help her as much as I could. I've now been getting constant messages from our mutual friends, telling me to stop hitting on her. FML

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You deserved it 541

GoogieWithers 23

Friday 16 January 2026 12:43

You can't help those that aren't willing to help themselves.

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GoogieWithers 23

Friday 16 January 2026 12:43

You can't help those that aren't willing to help themselves.

FluffythePink 23

Friday 16 January 2026 12:52

Fact is that you can't do anything until she decides she's worth more. Abusive relationships can be like drugs. Addictive. Until she realises that and chooses to 'get clean' there's nothing you can do for her. Next time she comes crying to you, tell her this, flat out, no frills : "You're addicted to [partner] like she's crack. Until YOU decide to give her up and never go back, there's nothing I can do for you. I'll help you find therapy but that's it. Call me when you realise she's destroying you and want out." And then just stop being there for all the picking up the pieces and attention between breakups. You can't set yourself on fire to keep her warm anymore.