I sympathize with you, OP. I had almost the exact same experience with my first boyfriend, except it was nine months instead of three. It was a calm breakup as well, no drama, and we stayed friends, but I was miserable for a long while afterwards, like you said. Hang in there - I've met the true love of my life since then, and I've no doubt that you will too. And you don't sound pathetic at all. No one should ever be ridiculed for falling in love. It's a wonderful experience, even when the person isn't right for you.

Thanks, and I guess I was worried about sounding pathetic, because talking like that is actually a quite taboo are in Britain, class and all that, it a wonder any of us ever get into a relationship ?

your first love? you dated for only a few months. are you 15? sorry, but no sympathy from me. you're too naive to understand real love and everything that goes into a serious relationship. move on already. date. have sex. she's not going to be "the one that got away" especially since I'm assuming you're in high school and were only together for less than what a semester consists of. YDI

And that ^ is why I said without wanting to sound pathetic. And yes, I can actually say that, I have had quite a few relationships before and never actually felt any true feeling for them, just because it wasn't a long relationship, doesn't mean that the emotions are any less meaningful

64 - Yeah, see, is exactly what I'm talking about. People like you are the reason no one takes love seriously anymore. Everyone is different; sometimes it happens really early on. Just because you're young or the relationship hasn't lasted long doesn't mean it's impossible. Stop being a judgmental prick.

Seeing the person at places in common is always difficult. My first love was someone at Sunday school who I would see every weekend. She was also beat friends with my cousin so I'd see her often. Nevertheless, the ass above has one valid point - date others. I know it's hard to beat the thought, but if you refer to my previous post (where I was compared to Dr. Phil lol) then you'll understand that getting involved with a new person will illuminate your confidence and distract you from thoughts of your former lover. Distraction and practicality is best. One final piece of advice - avoid sh**ing where you sleep. In future, don't get involved with women in the same social cycle you like to do (French horn etc). It would have been cool if she's from a different musical club and you connected randomly once when you met at an orchestra thing - but your situation (from what I understand) is that you belong to the same club, do Air Force etc with her also. YOUR social private life should be a retreat from your external life dramas. In future keep your love and private life distant We have all been in high school too a long time ago lol. I've made all the mistakes you have, and many more. Please accept some wisdom :)

Thanks, I have been trying to find myself someone else, but is quite a different place from the U.S. over here, if I where to go up to a random girl with a pickup line or offer to buy her a drink, I'd probably get slapped. Also, I live in a village in the middle of nowhere, and don't yet drive, so my only chance to get out the house if for clubs and school. But thanks for the advice anyway :)

I'm a cadet aswell over in Australia! but sorry for your loss!