By sadfantasy - 31/03/2016 06:00 - Canada - Toronto

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Today, the mentally-challenged teen who sometimes comes into my restaurant gave me a hug as usual. I thought it was sweet, until a coworker let me know he immediately goes and jacks off in the bathroom after. FML
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Same thing different taste

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Just because someones mentally challenged doesn't mean this type of behavior should be allowed. I can't believe the amount of comments that think this is fine. What if he decides to do something more disgusting or extreme?

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I find these comments a bit disappointing. When someone isn't mentally challenged, jacking off in the bathroom stall is something people just laugh at. But this kid is and now you all wanna call the police or what? I feel like there's a double standard here and I don't know why there is one.

I'm very sure anyone jerking off in a restroom is not funny and is just as gross and disgusting.

If I heard any guy jacking off in a public restaurant toilet I would crack up! It's inappropriate in the extreme and is a warning sign of potential deviant behaviour down the track.

thenetflox 4

**** off with that double standard bullshit. It's not like people smile upon women who ********** in public, it's equally disgusting.

Excuse me? Jacking off in public is never appropriate, including in a public bathroom, and it is not something to laugh at.

He wasn't saying it was a double standard between men and women. He was saying its a double standard between mentally handicapped people and everyone else. He's still wrong, but it was never a sexism issue.

BabyCakes818 16

mentally challenged? more like mentally disturbed

The next time you see him you should ask if you can have a chat. I work with people who have intellectual disabilities and unfortunately most have grown up without proper guidance or acceptance about their sexuality. You need to be gentle, yet firm. You can let him know how much you appreciate his friendship, but there is a time and a place for masturbation and that means somewhere private. Let him know this makes you feel uncomfortable and you would like them to stop doing it at your work. Encourage it to be at home and in private. Please don't tell them it's gross, nasty, disgusting, unnatural, etc. They can lack social awareness around this, and not know it makes people feel unsafe. Let them know you would still like to see them/receive hugs, but they need to respect your boundaries and place of work. Hope this helps!

He could be hugging her to be sweet, then it creates urges and he takes care of them. I'm not saying it's right, but if no one has taught him that it's not socially acceptable to ********** in public areas, how is he supposed to know? Social norms are learned behaviors, not natural. It's good he is going somewhere private but someone needs to step in and teach him that isn't enough. I wouldn't go so far as to say it's gross or disturbing, it's simply inappropriate and something that can be corrected fairly simply by letting a caretaker know. I have seen mentally sound people do things that go more into the disturbing/creepy category than this. And this is assuming that the person that told her about it is even telling the truth.

They're a person and therefore can be talked directly to. You do not need to go around them and talk to their guardian. Doing so implies they aren't smart enough to communicate and understand what is being expressed. People with intellectual disabilities are much smarter than people give them credit for. You'd be surprised how well they understand their surroundings and other people. Don't underestimate their ability to comprehend. They just need time to process, and a person to take their time in explaining themselves.

It's not op's responsibility, though. I know I wouldn't be comfortable explaining that to someone I don't know very well and I wouldn't even know how to go about it so they understand easily.

Mentally challenged???? Sound like a little creep!!

I move to have this striken from public record. Your Honor, the persecuter here was clearly leading the witness...on

Existing and being friendly while female does NOT equal an invitation for men to indulge sexual thoughts about you. Hugging is not leading anybody on. It's not appropriate to joke that it does, either, because too many people think and act that way for it to be funny in our society.

Haha PC cops again. Stop claiming its "our society" when you clearly live in your own little world.

thenetflox 4

I'd just stop hugging him. Problem solved.