I agree! The people who thumbed down are probs in bad shape. Work out, it takes time, years if anything, but being overweight is not healthy, not attractive, I don't want to take care of someone who can't take care of their own body.

As long as a person is happy with their body and their weight doesn't affect how they want to live their lives they can be as fat as they want. Its not your body and it isn't hurting you so get the **** over your fat phobia.

#171, I'm voting down all the comments talking about how terrible it is to be fat because I know how triggering that shit is to someone with anorexia. I've lived through it for 5 years and been in recovery for about 7 months. If I weren't in a pretty secure state of mind, these comments would have caused me to relapse. OP doesn't need to hear about how bad it is to be fat. I'm sure she's been told a million times, and it probably had a lot to do with her condition. She needs to hear that there's nothing wrong with her and she's strong for getting help, and yes, her brother was a total dick and she has every right to feel hurt over it. The fact that you think the only reason anyone would disagree with you is that they are out of shape just shows how little you know about anorexia and its common triggers.

The thing is, though...it's NOT "just a shirt." Not when

The app messed up and validated my comment before I was ready, and then I ran out of time to edit. Here is what it should have said: The thing is, though...it's NOT "just a shirt." She might still obsess over her weight, and the shirt just reinforced her warped views on what her body is supposed to look like. Saying, "it's just a shirt! Don't let it bother you!" invalidates her feelings and her situation. She doesn't need to hear that she's overreacting; she needs to hear that it's okay for her to feel hurt, because what he did (unintentionally or not) was actually hurtful. And maybe her brother didn't know, but he was a total dick when she confronted him. On the list of things you don't say to a recovering anorexic, "it's not okay to be fat" is at the top. It doesn't matter if he meant to hurt her or not. Also, you know what works great to figure out what someone ACTUALLY meant by something they said to you? Asking for clarification. Maybe he did take it that way, but there's no excuse for the way he handled it. I really don't understand why so many people don't get this. What her brother did was hugely insensitive, and I really don't get why he gets the praise for supposedly promoting a healthy lifestyle (which he's not, but that's a different topic), while OP gets blamed for having a natural reaction to a triggering event. The ignorance surrounding mental illness blows my mind.