That sounds like a big dissapointment all the way around OP and I'm sorry your first time had to be that way. I'm sorry for your partner as well...that sounds kind of painful. Speak to your doctor (you're supposed to tell them about any side effects anyway) maybe its a fixable situation. You shouldn't have to make a choice like that. Hopefully the girl was understanding and kind about it and didn't go around making fun of you.

They do the same to me. But if you don't obsess about it, you'll be able to cum.

I feel you, I lost my virginity a couple weeks ago, and we were interrupted about 10 minutes after we started. Congrats though, even if it wasn't good.

definitely talk to your doctor.

I was on Zoloft and it lilled.my drive almost completely. you may want to ask about switching to another med if it is concerning to you. I switched to Prozac and it came back :)

First off - good communication. Secondly - no shame here. Go talk with your doctor about this - this is a quality of life issue and they should be open to discussing how to allow you to live and function normally. This important and everyone should have the ability to have a happy and healthy relationship if they want it. Hugs and good luck!

Antidepressants have ruined my life for the exact same reasons, it really does suck.

find a nympho that also can't get off, have lots of amazing sex

Get off of those drugs

this is actually a really common side effect and there are more than one thing you can do to fix it. talk to your doc, op. my hubby had this problem and it impacted us trying to concieve