Today, it's either be alone and miserable, or go on shitty dates and be miserable. I have no other options. FML
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mr1234 6
OP here--I'm quite happy with my life otherwise; I have great family, a place to live and food to eat, a job I really like. I'm just very lonely. However, in my experience with dating sites, I get very frustrated because many of the dates go nowhere (because of many different reasons, many of them objectively pertaining to the other party). I do not go out to bars/clubs, and even though I have a number of activities outside the house, they are majority female (kickboxing, walking group, female friends that don't know a lot of single males, etc). I feel like I'm really missing that special someone in my life, and want to do all I can to find him, but "dating" is just making me feel worse and worse about myself (over multiple years). So literally, I have no other choice that to be unhappy (in this area) and alone, or be horribly uncomfortable on dates with strangers (which are indeed few and far between to begin with). So **** all of you for saying i deserve it. maybe with some background you'll understand that character limitations don't show the whole story.
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ShenaniganNinja 20
Hey OP. I know dating sucks. I'm a guy, and I have to contend with the fact that 90% of men in online dating websites come off as crazy creeps. It makes every time I try and message someone an effort to demonstrate that I'm neither creepy nor crazy, while simultaneously keeping my messages short so I don't come off as desperate either. When it comes to online dating, it's a numbers game. You'll go on 20 shitty dates for every 1 good date. For when it comes to that, my aunt gave me a solid piece of advice on dating. A lot of people make really bad first impressions, but they're actually decent people. Give anyone who you don't immediately find distasteful or unattractive 3 dates. If by the 3rd date you don't care to see them again, don't bother. She said she's had lots of good relationships and dates that she would have passed up if she didn't follow this rule. Be patient OP.
patwo8 14
Try and see the bright side of everything and keep your head up
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Comments (80)
worldclassrager 41
At first this seemed confusing... But there is someone our there don't give up...keep your chin up OP
DaBlacky 31
why is it free food? Because she's a woman?
rapunzel3416 28
I'm in a very similar situation. The guy I actually liked friend zoned me and I had just friend zoned a different guy because I thought there was something going on with me and the first guy. I deserve it I guess.
nekminnet 13
Get that man out of the friend zone! It's not a one way ticket you know
Jellysweetheart 23
It is possible to be single and happy... That's an option. Spend your time doing what you want to do without worrying about finding someone and it'll happen when it happens. Don't let men decide your happiness
nekminnet 13
If you're miserable with yourself when your alone then you'll always be miserable. Try to learn to like yourself then others will and you'll find your someone special.
marousje 20
I wanted to say: at least there's free food.. But you're a guy so you dont even got that going for you. I'm sorry :-(!
laden_swallow09 35
Hooray for outdated, sexist gender roles! Also, OP IS female.
marousje 20
Jeez, cant handle a joke nowadays? And it said mr thats why, take it easy ;-)
AllieCat21 21
Her initials could be mr....
Nessco 36
Perhaps you need to change your outlook on life. Start finding things to be happy about.
babycakesxx 11
Learn to be happy in your own and learn to love yourself.
Soundslikeothers 15
No other options? You can hang out with friends and be miserable, you can spend time with family and be miserable.
Cherryta 17
Just because you're single doesn't mean you are alone. You can be single and happy! Just focus on yourself; the right person will come along when you aren't looking :)