In general, women will be judged if they are openly horny, so men being openly horny feels more visible, acceptable, expected by comparison. If a single woman sleeps around, she's called all sorts of things. If a man sleeps around, it's something to brag about. This is a phenomenon that ultimately ends up hurting both sides. A high sex drive woman can't get what she wants without social repurcussions, and a low sex drive man might feel like a failure/outcast for not fulfilling societal expectations. Take this as a lesson that people are their own unique individuals rather than part of a statistical likelihood.

Maybe, just maybe, the common factor is OP. Maybe OP is attracted to or is attractive to men with low libido…. Once is random, twice may be a trend of some kind.

I’d love to find a guy with low or no sex drive. I could care less about it, but would love to have partner in this crazy life. but I have found that sex trumps everything, and without it, partners won’t stick around.