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Anonymous - 11/10/2025 22:00

Today, my friend is mad at me because I refused to be a bridesmaid since she’s getting married at a plantation. I asked if she’d get married at Auschwitz or somewhere else of great suffering. She called me a drama queen and blocked me. Sorry that I, a black woman, don’t wanna go to a plantation. FML
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Chazzster 29

Frankly I don’t blame you. Plantations were great if you were the owner and had no empathy at all for your laborers (or slaves). …. But wealth, then as now, could buy beauty and elegance at the big house, and I assume that’s what your friend was responding to. It’s a shame that your friend did not think of the big picture. Unfortunately there are a lot of people like that.

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mike3775 36

Good for you. I am not black, but I wouldn’t participate in a wedding or even attend one at a former plantation.

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Chazzster 29

Frankly I don’t blame you. Plantations were great if you were the owner and had no empathy at all for your laborers (or slaves). …. But wealth, then as now, could buy beauty and elegance at the big house, and I assume that’s what your friend was responding to. It’s a shame that your friend did not think of the big picture. Unfortunately there are a lot of people like that.

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mike3775 36

Good for you. I am not black, but I wouldn’t participate in a wedding or even attend one at a former plantation.

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Taurus_ChicKa 36

I see both sides here. I don't blame you for not wanting to set foot on a plantation, but at the same time this isn't about you - it's about your friend. It's her day, and if she wants to have a wedding on a plantation, that's up to her. Plantations don't have the best history, but it's not like you yourself were affected...

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