Funny. Then they wont learn why what they did was wrong.

So physically harming your child is the ONLY way to make them see what they've done wrong?

Not the only way, probably the most effective. Physically harming makes it sound like your beating them down when that's not the cause at all. Because after a minute the sting of being spank goes away and you are aware that you shouldn't do what you did anymore because it's wrong.

Yes, but its still physocal damage. I just don't think its right.

It's not considered child abuse 57.

shut the **** up.

#57 geez when i was a kid i was spanked all the time! im just fine today, and its not like kids are going to learn if you just tell them to stop. spanking doesnt hurt too much, maybe your just sensitive?

#57 also, you may want to learn how to spell "physically" before you point out whats right and wrong.

It's disaplin

57 have you ever had kids???

Well he could talk 2 him try 2 give examples not 2 draw in the wall

I think it works well. my parents spanked me when I did something very bad. not only did I feel the shame of what I've done upset them, but I didn't like the consequence, so I never did it again. same rule applies. it's only 'harm' if it's done to an extent of abuse or leaving lasting damage. when you spank a child you don't use strength, you merely show how unhappy you are with what they've done. it's not the pain of it that makes it work.

Oh thank you for clarifying that you're not "harming" them, only making them Feel enough pain to never do anything bad again. Maybe physical punishment can be effective, I wouldn't know seeing as my parents never spanked me. And look at this I'm not running amok, causing trouble, and all the other bullshit reasons you guys have found.

The fact that you are a conformist pansy who never even had the wit to come up with, much less the will to try, anything outside of the rules doesn't change the fact that children who do need to be shown a form of discipline they respect. I for one, both as a child and now have no respect for meaningless words. Empty threats and rules with no enforcement receive neither respect nor compliance from me. What would you do if you got a child that simply laughed at a timeout and chose not to blindly conform with your hopes and dreams for them?

I'm so glad you know everything about my life. It'll make this so much easier... Oh wait, you don't. But you can make assumptions about me, so I'm going to do the same. Just because your parents didn't give two ***** about you and could only get you to listen by spanking you and making you fear them because they didn't know how to be a parent doesn't make me a conformist pussy. Children crave acceptance and attention. Let's say child acts out, lies, breaks something etc. Parent takes toys, sends to room and make them stay there while rest of family enjoys an activity. Child wants to be part of the fun, wants love, and wants parent to be proud of them. They become jealous and learn that certain behavior = no attention from family, no toys, no friends.

well put. I was that sort of child. well I didn't laugh, but being spanked was the only way I learned not to do things. I didn't listen to the "don't do that honey, it's bad." thing I'd keep doing it until I was spanked, then I learned.

I'll give an example.... one I even remember... I was around 4ish... and I decided that the cat and I want to stick a spoon inside the light socket.... my father flew over the couch, grabbed me away so quickly and spanked me-- earlier I had tried it and my mom explained that it was electricity, it hurt people and you had to leave it alone. well I didn't 'SEE' the electricity in the socket, so I guess I wanted to find out where it was.... I didn't understand the explanation, but boy the spanking teach me I shouldn't do it at least...

yeah send the kid to his room which probably gas a game console, toys and a bed...that'll show him when my parents started doing "PC" punishments I'd do shit on purpose when we were doing something boring so I could go play my n64 or watch tv or even sleep

200- I got spanked and hit during my childhood for misbehaving, hell my mom still does some times XP Now I'm 17 and an honors student, and you can bet your ass I don't do the shit I got hit for. there is a strict line between abuse and discipline. the kid did something wrong so he deserved a punishment. and quite frankly I'd prefer the hit anyway, I don't want my shit taken from me XP if I do something wrong I'll Gladly accept my punishment. I don't get abused, I get disciplined which is what happened to the kid

225 you never got hit so how do you know that it's "physically damaging"? Don't talk about things you don't know about. My dad was born in 1943 so he's what you can call "old school". His dad would HIT him if he did bad things or was behaving badly and I mean HIT him. You should hear the stories. But guess what? My dad loved his dad dearly and my dad turned out to be the best dad I could ever hope for, and he hit me a few times, too. For instance, we had a good family friend over for dinner. I behaved like a monster, so my dad took me out of the room and smacked me pretty good and I learned never to behave like that again. And guess what? I still love and respect him and was always glad he had the good sense to be a real parent.

I love how people call spanking physical punishment. Gonna scold or report a guy who spanks his girlie during sex? No? Why not? Same kind of thing right? Both cause pain but one enjoys it while the other is learning from it. ;O

people don't say to spanking kids so they won't 'run amuk' as you say but it is one way to punish kids some kids don't respond to the other ways in a good way, in other words they don't stop doing what ever it is they are doing so spanking is the only way to discipline them. every kid is different tho and not every kid has to be spanked for discipline...trust me....only spanking worked on me when I was little

i was spanked but I never feared my mom i respected her for it...so stfu you don't know anything about that. also I'm not saying there's anything wrong with other disciplinary acts I'm just sayin it worked for me and my mom

"Excuse my son, he drew on the walls earlier with a Sharpie and i had to Spank him." Not so difficult

*meezer high five* whats ur username?

honestly, I would rather be spanked than grounded. it's over quicker

Are you Amish?

Oh my god shut the **** up

As a kid time out never worked for me by the time it was over I forgot what I did so I went and did it again. A little smack is not physical violence or abuse its punishment

56, I love the Princess Bride referance. 42, Listen to 56. That is all.

Time out may work for some, but not all. A spanking works every time. You don't spank for every little thing they do wrong, but some things require one. When I was a kid, the threat of spending 10 minutes in time out was not enough yo deter me from doing something. The threat of a spanking was. Look how well these kids in the "don't spank" generation are doing, then compare them to our parents and grandparents.

lol 56, the last part made me think of anigo Montoya (sp on his first name) 'I do not think that means what you think it means'

seriously, 152. our poor world :(

46- grounding and time outs are two different things. I said nothing about grounding your kids. 54- Yes. Yes, I am. 56- I understand what you are saying. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but if it wasn't wrong, why is it illegal? Google cases about parents spanking their kids. And yes, i don't know them or their child bit there are other methods of discipline. Also, to answer your question, I do in fact know what karma means. If you would like the definition, here it is: kar·ma/?kärm?/Noun 1. (in Hinduism and Buddhism) The sum of a person's actions in this and previous states of existence, viewed as deciding their fate in future existences. 2. Destiny or fate, following as effect from cause. More » Source: Dictionary.com 104- Really mature. 107-Please read response to 56. 128-Bite me. 151-Im sure she was talking to me and my stuck up opinion. Lol

Time outs don't work with the modern kids these days. Just cause you spank your kid doesn't make it abuse. Its a technique that gets to a kids mind faster since they love to push their limits with authority.

I greatly appreciate the princess bride reference, but karma does, infact, mean what she thinks it means. "What goes around comes around." OP did "wrong" (I personnally do not see a problem with a little spanking now and again), and his kid said something humiliating infront of his boss; henceforth, he was punished by karma.

No, he wasn't punished by karma as karma does not apply to this lifetime. Karma only applies if you believe in reincarnation because it is a collective thing that applies to your next life. Basically if you are an asshole in this lifetime it's going to come back and bite you in the ass when you are reborn into your next life. Stop bastardizing words so that they mean what you want it to mean. Next, spanking is not illegal. What is illegal is beating your child with belts, paddles, and other such instruments that will leave bruises. A simple spanking with the hand is a perfectly acceptable and in many cases quite effective punishment. You should really look up the actual laws. How do you know that the OP's child had not been given time-outs repeatedly for the same offense or similar (such as maybe they used crayons the last time) and the OP went to a last resort? As others have pointed out every child is different and certain punishments DO NOT work for certain kids. Some children don't give a damn if you take away their toys because they can always find something else to do. Some kids don't respond to time outs because they just sit a fume and make themselves mad. T On the flip side of that, some kids don't care if you spank them. They will take the spanking and go do the exact same thing again. Different strokes for different folks. Get over it. It's not like the OP is coming over to force spanking on your kid.

spanking Is most certainly not against the law you were miss informed hun beating your child and leaving marks is against the law spanking doesn't leave marks behind... and if I have to go to jail for saving my child from running in a road or injuring another human then that's my job as a parent...

Wow it's not a big deal! Calm down. Smh on punishments these days! Spank the boy! Spank him!!

mad_hatter I made an account on this website specifically to tell you something -.- spanking is a form of discipline that does not harm the child. how do I know this? I'm Mexican all of my cousins and myself get spanked or whacked when we do something wrong. and all of us still greatly love our parents, none of us call ourselves abused. there is a distinct difference between abuse and disciplining a kid. Ive been disciplined. I'm 17 now and there are still times where my mom will smack me if I did something wrong and I find that fine because I know I deserved it because I ****** up somehow. and when I'm older and I have kids I plan on enforcing the same kind of discipline with them because I know it's effective, but only when it's necessary. and before you say I must be damaged or abused or mentally messed up, let me point out I'm an honors student who is drug/ alcohol free. I can gave stable relationships with friends and family, have a healthy relationship with my boyfriend (not getting abused there either d:) in a bunch of clubs at school and varsity tennis. I'm a normal teenage girl. I'm not trying to be mean but proving a point, all that happened was the kid got spanked, not whipped or beaten or bruised so no it's not abuse