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By dino0123 - This FML is from back in 2012 but it's good stuff - United States - Herndon

Today, my very cheap boyfriend of four years proposed. I was overwhelmed with emotion, since he bought such a huge, seemingly-diamond ring. I was later overwhelmed with emotion when my finger turned green. FML
I agree, your life sucks 32 830
You deserved it 4 598

Same thing different taste

Top comments

kleider1 9

he might have actually saved up for it and gotten ripped off.

cablemirc 2

your cheap boyfriend is just that, cheap. and you know it, so take it or leave it, he is who he is. did you really expect extravagance?

Comments

This is what you can probably expect for the rest of your life with him. Decide if you can be on board with his "frugal" ways or if it'll only make you feel unappreciated and cheap.

I'm surprised so many people are saying the OP should just be grateful she even got a ring or that she should be happy that her boyfriend lied to her. Sure, you don't have to spend a lot of money on an engagement ring, but buying a cheap piece of junk jewelery shows what sort of value he has on the relationship imo. An engagement ring symbolizes a want to be with someone forever. You want to be with this person for the rest of your life, they mean more to you than any other person. Why WOULDN'T you want to splurge a bit to by something that isn't a worthless piece of junk? Why would you want your fiance/wife to be embarrassed when someone inevitably points out her ring is a cheap piece of crap? And hell, engagement rings don't always have to be extravagant and ridiculously priced. You can buy pretty rings from the jeweler for $100-200. Tiffany and Co. is currently selling a gorgeous engraved "I love you" ring for only $170.

I agree with you. The thing is OP knows he’s cheap but she still managed to stay with him 4 years so this cannot have bothered her so badly. Knowing him, how could she really expect an expensive ring? I’m a girl and I don’t get this obsession with expensive engagement ring either. That’s not how you value love. When my fiancé and I went ring shopping, I said that I didn’t want to spend more than 50 € (around 60 $) on the ring, for the simple reason that I’d rather put money towards the wedding / honeymoon. Plus, if I ever lose it, I will only be sad over the emotional attachment, not also because I just lost 500 eur.

I agree that it's upsetting that he wasn't upfront about the ring not being real. We don't really know the guy's intention when he got the ring. He could have just gotten it from a thrift store and didn't realize it was not real. Maybe OP mentioned something in the past that indicated that she didn't want anything less than a certain size (I have friends who claimed they wouldn't marry their guys if the diamond was less than 2 carats). Without knowing the whole story, I don't feel right to judge either one of them. But to me, my love for my boyfriend matters more. I was just telling him the other day that if we both want to spend our lives together, I'd marry him even if he could only afford a silver ring. And I'd much rather have the money spent more wisely (like the down payment of a house) than him getting me a huge diamond.

Times are tough. No, but seriously, he could have at least told the truth.

Everybody knows you buy a real band of at least white gold and buy a fake rock. No green finger and a happy wife.

I just realized they never said that the rock was a fake, just that the band was copper based. Maybe he sprung for a real diamond but figured the band wouldn't matter?

Do they even put real diamonds on bands that cheap?

not usually... they only use real ones on silver, gold, white gold or platinum. Most places don't advertise engagement rings in silver only the golds or platinum but you can design your own or find a ring to use as an engagement ring that isn't from the engagement section of the store.

Ever think that money might be tight for him?

Gosh he could of at lest got u real gold or silver with cubic z

mariebc123 7

If hes cheap leave him. Your fault.