Thanks for the follow up, it really sounds like your going to be better off without those in-laws and their negativity. I'm glad your fiancé is on your side though, it sounds like you scored a real keeper!

I totally know how you feel!! It's not the exact same situation, but my fiancé's mom treats me that exact same way! She treats my BIL's fiancé like she is the best thing since sliced bread. But I am always doing something wrong.

Hey, internets-5 for having a nerdy fiance! The whole thing really sucks, OP, but I'm glad to hear your fiance isn't under the thumb of his mother. I don't understand how some people can think it's okay to be that outwardly cruel.

hey Op, please please please go here: http://community.babycenter.com/groups/a4725/dwil_nation start reading around there and start building your spines. you and DF both. you should also totally post this story on there. most advice you'll get is to TO at minimum, AND that FMIL should NEVER get to meet any of your babies when you have em.

My mother is unaccepting of my boyfriend because he's Chinese so I can understand parents who are disapproving of someone because of their race.

My father in law is like this and has been since my husband and I got together in 2003, when we were due to get married he tried to delay the marriage by saying we should wait and save up etc and we both knew it was a delay tactic. Still says snide remarks and insults me. Thank god he lives on the other side of the world now. OP it's their problem, not yours, just be who you are :)

"Not white enough.." Maybe you're not black enough, OP.

Maybe your fiancé could fake his death to his parents, and then y'all move to Vladivostok and become Anastaysia and Vladamir and live out the rest of your lives in siberia, were you will grow old without the stress of the in-laws. Alternatively, bar them from the wedding

Same here, although we don't have the race issue, my mother-in-law-to-be just doesn't like me. And she always was diminished and hated by her mother-in-law and promised us, when we started dating, that she won't be like that, because she knows how that feels. Haha. She never says anything to me, just picking on my fiancé and planting absolutely stupid ideas in his naive head. Most things he just tells me, because he knows it's stupid, too, but some things drip through, if you hear the same stuff everytime, then you start to believe it. Til know we got over this by talking about it, but I don't know how long he can stand her manipulating speeches. Like I'd cook unhealthy, to make him fat and unattractive to girls, I'd become pregnant, abandon my apprenticeship and suck all his money out of him (he's studying and earns less than me, I even paid some rents for him, because his parents won't lend him any money, when he's broke). Who cares, after over 4 years of this I just leave it uncommented and treat them like there is nothing between us, luckily they live 3-4 hours away from us and I don't see my in-laws very often :-) Hope dies last. You'll withstand it together, good luck!

That sucks OP :(.