By shazzasm - 02/03/2016 18:56 - New Zealand - Auckland
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Hi, I'm the author, made an account just to comment ? I couldn't really explain the situation in much detail but it's a little bit more complex than just kicking him out or not... So pretty much this brother is my twin. We're twenty minutes apart and extremely close so the older/younger sibling thing doesn't really apply because we swap a lot. When he's in need, I help as much as I can and vice versa really. Anyways, I recently moved out of home, renting a room at my aunty's to go to uni and my brother decided to apply for a job interview where I was. He was allowed to stay for a couple of days but he just never ended up going home. The house is just big enough for me to live there, so an extra person is a bit of a stretch, I.e. Why he's sleeping in my bed. It was fine at the start but he's started pushing everyone's patience... I would tell him he needs to go home but he's a touch mentally unstable at the moment and I don't wanna rock the boat. I've told my parents but he's avoiding them at the moment because he 'knows' what's best for himself, and there's not much they can do when they're 9 hours away. Everytime I try to approach the subject of you need to go home and back to your job, he kind of explodes so I'm kind of treading carefully. After I posted this, I had a chat with my Aunty, she's cool, and said he was annoying me a little because I'm at uni in the hopes of being a doctor and it's a bit stressful to study when I'm printing him out cvs and other stuff. We talked about it and I ended up telling him I'd help him but he had to have found something by Sunday... His genius solution however wasn't as well thought through as he'd hoped. He got himself a flat but no job so I'm not really sure what's gonna happen next but hopefully it's good! Sorry for the long winded explanation, hope it makes more sense! Thanks
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Well you let him in. Get him to pay some bills or kick his ass out.
Fake discovering that you have to move out, and see how fast he runs out. Game, Set, Match.
Change the locks while he's out, and send him his stuff postage due.
I would have kicked his ass out the door the first day he arrived.
You...let your brother force his way into your bed, and he keeps you out of your own room? how on earth does that happen?
Just because he's family doesn't mean he's allowed to take advantage of you like that. Kick him out and disown him. I've had family members do this to me before and it's not alright in any way. Once I got my auntie to feed my cat while I went to visit my older sister cross country. She had done it before, but this time she let her 35 year old son (I was 23 at the time) crash without my permission. My cousin had a history with drug abuse and we weren't close. As a young woman, walking into your apartment and feeling as if someone had been living there without your knowledge is not a pleasant sensation at all. I called her and confronted her about it. We weren't close to begin with, so the fact she did such a thing with no respect at all to my feelings just made us more distant.
I think it's high time to set him on fire
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Make him pay the bills too
It's sounds like high time to instill some tough-love. For the good of the both of you, of course.