well... sounds to me like you deserve it for being a shallow money hungry succubus.

if you've yet to confront him and can get the meeting address, attend from a distance and see for yourself. if he is the cheating kind one has to wonder which is cheaper, that deposite or a divorce ..... besides if this is just a friend from the Internet he should be upfront with you and invite you to meet with her as well. men only lie about where they are going and hide their rendevous when they are with someone they should not be in a manner they should not be. the same goes for women. Internet dating is just as damaging to a relationship as physical dating. it does not take much to convert from one to the other.

yea... even if the deposit was more then a grand, I'd walk away from that in a heartbeat. if he's curious about what else is out there before you're even married... that's bad news

so?

well might as well cancel the wedding despite how much the deposit was, unless you're a tightass about the money? is it worth the years of infidelity you will see in the future? if he's already cheating now he will always cheat mami. cut your loss now.

atleast he has a backup

that's soooo ****** up he is ruining something extraordinary >:(

What a douchebag! Sorry hun. :(

is your fiances name paul??

Why do people marry? Men cheat and women spend story of your life.