The Brave New World... It's beginning...

I cannot understand why not wanting children is considered selfish?! To whom is it selfish? Who is getting affected by this, besides the potential grandparents?

Choosing to have our not have children is very personal, and I'm so very sorry that you've been treated like this. I hate to suggest this but you might be better off not subjecting yourself to anyone who treats you like that, family or not.

If you don't want kids, you need to justify that decision to absolutely no one. People often give me shit because I've never wanted kids, and think they're being wise gurus when they tell me I will change my mind. People don't get that you do whatever you want with your womb, they have no authority over it, it doesn't belong to them. Also, having a family is not a woman's sole purpose like it used to be. I'm a very family person, I'm very close to them, but I just don't want children. I'm content as a cucumber with my cat. Anyway, good luck OP, hope the situation gets better !

Even if you were able to provide for them, you still don't have to have children of you don't want to. There's nothing wrong with not wanting children.

There is an eye disease that runs in my family and if I had been born with it, you can bet there would have been no way I would taken the risk of inflicting blindness on a child just so I can reproduce. You're doing the right thing OP.

I'm in that sort of limbo, where I'm unsure about children. I see a cutie, I want one myself. I see children behaving poorly and the parents not doing anything, I give up. I'm not capable of taking care of children 24 hours a day, which is why I'm halfway positive I won't have children. But on occassion I still think about names and what I would do as a parent. Though puppies sound extremely adorable as alternative to children. *swoons*

You are the absolute opposite to selfish; I applaud you for thinking long term. You certainly cannot be expected to have children when it would be so detrimental to your health. I think a lot of the time with these people it's a case of "I was expected to have kids so you have to too" and then there's "you have to do the same as I did so I'll feel better about my life choices." Just remember the next time you get accused of being "selfish" that anytime you ask someone why they had kids, the answer will probably start with "I wanted..."

People suck op , do the best thing for you and always remember your in control of your own life.

Wish there were more people like you in this world, responsible and who know their limits instead of popping out one kid after another just to go on welfare and force those kids to grow up in poverty!