From one child free woman to another...it gets better. Just continue to be firm, and factual about your decisions and it shuts down the ignorance.

Don't ever let anyone tell you you need to have kids. My husband and I don't want them either. Maybe we'll adopt later, but we have no plans to have biological children of our own. You say you aren't ready for them in more ways than just the physical. If, one day you do find yourself in a place where those issues are behind you, there is the adoption route. And you just might change your mind one day. And if not, then you don't have kids. Not a big deal. It's YOUR choice and no one else's. I haven't gotten the "selfish bitch" bit, but I regularly get the "You'll love your own children" and "You'll change your mind in a few years." I have always known I don't want kids and that has never changed. Personally, I think it is the opposite of selfish to not have children. If you know you can't provide for them properly, then how is it selfish to opt out of putting kids through that?

Selfishness is not doing what you want... It is wanting others to do what you want them to do. Who is really being selfish here? Tell them, with a smile, that you'll go to the doctor tomorrow to make sure you can get pregnant (even if it leads to your maiming or death) because their wishes are much more important than yours.

I haven't been called selfish yet, but a guy did ask when my husband was going to give me a kid and when I very firmly stated I didn't want kids, the guy told me "Yes, you do." Yeah...I may have gone off on him. How the hell is a near stranger going to tell me what I do and do not want, and why is it my husband's job to "give" me a kid? I've told my mother about not wanting kids and she asks what's going to happen to me when I die. Because screwing up a person's entire life just so someone can take care of things when I die is a perfectly valid reason to have a child.

Sorry to hear this issue. A dear friend of mine has lived with his girlfriend for 9 years, no wedding talk. Why? Their folks want grandkids, but NOT out of marriage. My friends want cats, not kids...so no wedding till the parents die.

it's alright OP I told my mom I was never having kids she "understood" yet keeps passively mentioning that she can't wait until I have kids one day... My bf is making me feel guilty and like I'm not allowed to talk about it because that's "rubbing it in his face". I told my mom straight up to knock it off and my bf that if he wants kids at anytime he could leave. I would never be mad at him for leaving me to fulfill his desire for children so I'd like it if he didn't make me feel guilty about my desire to not have kids. If it is that big of an issue, there the door. Sounds mean but sometimes you have to out your foot down and let people know that it isn't a negotiable issue. if they don't like it, then they can keep it to themselves.

Yeah op how dear you not do your part in making the world more over populated leading to destroying it. You have any idea how much hard work we put in for this?

You don't need those people in your life. They don't know how you live. When it comes time for you to think about children, I'm sure you'll be a great parent.Lots of love -J

Kelpies not Kids... All the way... And for people who don't know, a Kelpie is a breed of dog. My partner want to raise Kelpies not kids.

Sorry to hear that OP, the real selfish bitches here are the people calling you out. Btw if you explain the situation to them maybe they will understand.