By monsterinlaw - 23/08/2011 14:51 - United States
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Thank goodness my mil is amazing. It's my own mother that constantly feels the need to tell me how to raise my son. Finally she asked me a couple weeks ago why she never sees him. I told her that until she can mind her own business and keep her unwanted comments to herself then she wouldn't be seeing my child. She hasn't been mean since. So yes they are bargaining chips in a way. You just have to have enough of a backbone to do it. Never let someone else make you feel inferior when raising your child. It is your child and you need to do what you feel is best, whether that's not allowing grandparents to see them or not. It is your job to protect them from crazy people and if that's your own family well then you do what you have to do.
It was always just understood in my family that while at grandmas her rules were followed and while at home my rules were followed. But neither my mom nor MIL are/were bad so I guess my perspective may just be a bit askew. I still believe the problem can be resolved without using the child as a weapon. It's the adults problems so keep the kid out of it. IMO...:)
Are you saying we need to choose our partners by their mothers character? And if our future mother-in-law isn't as nice as we expect her to be, we need to dump our man because of her? Boy, you're talking shit. I choose my partner by his personality, not by that of his mother. Ofcourse, it's pretty sad for OP if her husband never stand up for her, but that tells more about him than about the mother-in-law.
Hey Djeepee, try reading 4's comment again because you COMPLETELY missed the whole point of 4's comment. Apparently your urge to jump down someone's throat was so strong that you couldn't have been bothered to actually read the comment. I'm more than a little disturbed that so many people thumbed up such an ignorant comment.
She sounds like mother in law from hell. I'm sorry. I'm not going to try to be "helpful" and say 'Well did you try talking to her and explaining where you work?' because that would be dumb. However, I don't think you should let her get to you or control you in any way. That's just wrong. Maybe get your husband to talk to her. You may have done that already but it's a thought if you haven't.....
It's extremely irritating for a know-it-all older person to stick their nose in your biz or insist on not following commonly understood safety practices because: "I raised 3 kids of my own and they are fine"... I've had to get rid of a sitter for insisting on laying my baby face down and trying to make me feel stupid for telling her to keep her on her back while sleeping.. A main preventer of SIDS and common sense since newborns don't have neck strength or control to protect themselves from smothering. Put her straight now or you will have to keep hearing her annoying and outright scary (if shes babysitting), outdated nonsensical childcare practices
Good luck when the baby is born
If you're working when you go into labour, it will be like nurse's inception.