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33- OP isn't happy 60- I s*** in my pants 66- you are a slob/(swine) 70- hopefully, everything will be good for you 75- (alles neu)- everything new 92- that is just gruesome 101- you're all stupid, just stop with the wrong/incorrect German, and stay speaking English 114- I don't think you have all your cups in your cabinet (a German phrase for being crazy), I'm not stupid

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Das ist wunderbar OP, je nach Alter natürlich, aber im Ernst, ich hoffe es stellt sich heraus, okay! I sure hope y'all learned some German and can inform the father as well!

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  jellenwood

Thank you for translating!

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You can't MAKE them take responsibility. If he truly doesn't want to be involved then all he has to do is sign a paper relinquishing his parental rights. In a perfect world, he'll want to help out at least financially, but there are a lot of steps to even prove he is the father, having a court ordered DNA test, lots of hassle especially for someone overseas. It's a crummy situation, but he may not even know, but he may take responsibility too.

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26- Evidently old enough to get pregnant could mean anything older than 12, as brutal as that is, but in my mind her daughter's age is revelant: pregnant at 18 while still living a home is a different story than pregnant entering high school :p Last I heard, exchange students were at least in their mid teens before they get shipped to a foreign country, but hopefully both of these kids were older. Op not mentioning her daughter's age doesn't guarantee she's older. I'd hate to think the exchange student was almost an adult and basically taking advantage of a child in a training bra. :p

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That's why the highschools that we've seen do exchanges go through great length to make sure females were housed with only girls in the house, and males were housed with only households with boys.

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Pfft, old enough to bear children could technically be like 8 (probably even younger, I think the record is like 5 or something ridiculous but that's obviously less likely). In any case, I thought these exchanges were usually same-sex? To avoid issues like this and just because it's easier for sharing a room, sharing interests, etc.

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Just because the daughter got pregnant by a foreign exchange student does not mean that her family was the one sponsoring him... They could have meet at school, or hooked up there, or anywhere in between.

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@48, read #55 comment. That's basically what I was trying to say, not that both students were exchanges, but that students were made to say with households with the same gender children. Obviously it's not going to eliminate sexual shenanigans, as #63 indicates, but it will reduce the opportunities.

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113- that 5 year old got pregnant by rape from her dad. And I'm not sure I believe this but I heard that she was 9 months old when she got her first period. And yes, it's not unusual now for girls to start younger than 10.

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143, it is actually possible and more common than you think for a newborn infant girl to experience vaginal bleeding at birth and a few days beyond. It's because of all the hormones passed from the mother. Also baby girls can have cervical mucous again from hormones which USUALLY disappear after a couple days and don't return until puberty.

I think this requires more information. If she's young then I can understand the predicament. If she's a legal adult, then it's her choice to have a baby regardless of where the father lives. It would be human decency to let the guy know he's going to be a father, though.

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If he's an even remotely decent person he'd want to know, and raising and providing for his child would be far more important than living in the country of his choice.

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54 - No, we don't all choose exactly when to have a kid but if you're not ready to this degree then you either shouldn't be having sex or you should be taking a hell of a lot precautions. Yes, there's always a chance they used protection properly and got unlucky but, the fact that there's always a chance, is precisely why you don't shag the guy you don't know well and who's not even going to be in the country soon.

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57-- even if she thought she knew him well and he lived in her same town, it doesn't mean the father would stick around. Granted, it would be easier to see the child and pay child support, but it does not mean he will do either.

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Yes but it makes it more likely than if he's on the other side of the globe. Nothing is certain, but we make choices based on probability, not on pure worst case scenarios. Even if you have a kid with your husband of two decades, it's possible he'll be hit by lightning and die the next day, but it's still a better decision than shagging an exchange student.

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