By selfesteemloss - 10/08/2013 23:41 - Spain - Barcelona
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It always grinds my gears when I hear about people dumping others via message. Tell them in person if possible. Sorry to hear about the touchy subject being brought up. At least you'll probably never see them again.
Why? If you're breaking up with someone you usually aren't going to retain good feelings for them, so why would you go out of your way to pay that respect? Sometimes breakups are messy and you literally never want to see someone's face again for as long as you live, much less in the very near future.
Why pay that respect? Oh I don't know, perhaps because most people aren't heartless bastards like you and may actually have cared for their now-exes at some point and still want to behave like an actual human being instead of like a complete asshole. Just a thought.
27 - Exactly. If you can't, for some reason, meet up in person, then at least a phone call is better. By text or by Internet is a cop out for people who are too cowardly to be honest to someone's face - and if you're too much of a coward for that? You shouldn't be dating. I can see if you've been dating someone for like a week breaking up with them by phone, but once you've been together longer than that, you owe them the courtesy of a face to face meeting. It's just polite that way. My ex had done some pretty horrible things to me (like spiking my drinks at a party so I would get completely wasted so he could play out some creepy rape fantasy without my knowledge - my friend caught on and stopped it, thankfully). I had him meet me in a public place, where my parents were nearby - buy out of earshot - and broke up with him in person because despite the fact that he had been horrid towards the end, I liked him once, and I felt I owed him an explanation even though he'd been in the wrong. I dated him for about a year (I was 17-18). I've been with my current boyfriend for eight years now, and if, for some reason, I had to break up with him (I have no reason to, I'm happy), I would do it in person because eight years of your life is worth more than a text message.
Well, at least you know what kind of person he was. Also, he's just a bartender, sorry to all bartenders who may read this, but not all bartenders are as sweet as they look and he is a definite shitpancake.
This is not kind of him, but you should've kept it to yourself, especially if you were flirting with him ! I don't think he had to know.