By Anonymous - 09/01/2015 20:16 - United States
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You should inform her that there is a major psychological aspect to erectile dysfunction. If you're constantly worried about getting it up, you'll have a more difficult time getting it up. Comments like that will just make it worse.
Maybe she's sexually frustrated and OP won't go to a doctor to see if there's anything that can help fix or improve his situation? Not saying her insults aren't nasty and uncalled for but maybe that's her twisted way of pushing him over the edge to finally do something about it? My brother-in-laws has a thyroid problem that kills his libido plus a doctor phobia! That leaves my sister in the shit out of luck category when it comes to sex! She's always crabby!
69, she's clearly demonstrating that she's not that great of a person. If your significant other has performance issues and you constantly mock that person and use those issues as a way to belittle them, you sort of suck as a person. She should have enough decency to know that it's a sensitive issue, and as such, should know better than to use those issues as a way to make someone feel bad about themselves.
@17 I have a phobia of doctors too, I thought I was the only one! Other people have a phobia of spiders or snakes (both of which I think are cool) but I have to have a fear of doctors. It sucks to be terrified of someone who's supposed to help you; I know it's irrational but it doesn't stop me from having panic attacks when I have to see a doctor. It's been that way since I was a little girl.
The problem with online submissions is that we only get a small part of the story. We don't know that the OP doesn't insult her (or worse) constantly, all we got was this one tidbit about her. Often people victimize themselves, so you're quickly jumping to the conclusion that she's a horrible person but she may in reality be retaliating to something the OP does.
Honestly though, when she married you, she should have married while being aware of all the things that come with erectile dysfunction. Assuming she knew before marriage, she's in no position to insult and be bitter to you like that now.
She should rather help you with medical treatment and not insult you. Insults do not help.
Maybe instead of the cheap shots she can help you rise to the occasion.
She's not a "bitch" or "rude", she's outright abusive, which is worse. I'd say talk to a counselor about it, but unfortunately, I'm not sure anyone will take it seriously because you happen to be a man and she happens to be a woman. So good luck finding someone who's able to look past your genders. And yeah, it's not like it's the worst abuse out there - but it's the little abuses that are the most poisonous, from personal experience.