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By  Callyn  |  47

Condoms aren't 100%, the pill isn't 100%, the two combined aren't 100%. They could have had safe sex and still ended up with a pregnancy.

Our adoption system is already overloaded and full of kids. If OP isn't white or asian, the likelihood that the resulting child will be adopted is very low. Adoption is not a cure all, nor does it do anything about the stresses of pregnancy on a woman body.

OP, it's your decision but you probably should have talked about this possibility at some point. None of the decisions is wrong. Talk it over with your boyfriend and figure out which decision is the best for you.

By  Adam Westwood  |  14

If he didn't want a child maybe he should have practised safe sex! If you don't want the child either then birth it and give it up for adoption. Speak to an adoption agency, people out there can't have kids and would love to have a chance at parenthood.
If you do want the child, dump his loser ass and give the baby the best life you can.

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By  Adam Westwood  |  14

If he didn't want a child maybe he should have practised safe sex! If you don't want the child either then birth it and give it up for adoption. Speak to an adoption agency, people out there can't have kids and would love to have a chance at parenthood.
If you do want the child, dump his loser ass and give the baby the best life you can.

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  Callyn  |  47

Condoms aren't 100%, the pill isn't 100%, the two combined aren't 100%. They could have had safe sex and still ended up with a pregnancy.

Our adoption system is already overloaded and full of kids. If OP isn't white or asian, the likelihood that the resulting child will be adopted is very low. Adoption is not a cure all, nor does it do anything about the stresses of pregnancy on a woman body.

OP, it's your decision but you probably should have talked about this possibility at some point. None of the decisions is wrong. Talk it over with your boyfriend and figure out which decision is the best for you.

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  Nhayaa  |  14

@Adam, why is there always a man to tell women what to do with their body? Do you think it's a great adventure to be pregnant? Especially when you don't want the kid? It's hard enough when you want them not to go through all the process when you don't. And the american adoption system is shitty, if you don't want the kid anymore you just sell them to another family...what kind of country is that? So just leave her be FFS.

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  ViviMage  |  38

We don't know how long they've been dating. My sister got engaged once after 2 weeks of dates, and I know someone that is still dating 12 years later. Both have no kids/

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  mrsstimmer  |  13

Hahaha why do people that assume being with someone now, means they want to get married. It is not everyones sole goal in life to get married. And if it is I think you have your priorities wrong. The choice of mariage, similar to the choice of having kids, does not say anything about the love people share. Getting married should never be a default choice but a concious decision. Better a stable single person than an unhappy couple who married for the wrong reasons.

By  RichardPencil  |  27

I guess your reply will depend on which kind of sobbing it was:
Sobbing for joy: “Never. Just get ready for 18 years of child-support payments.”
Sobbing for sadness: “As soon as you drive me to the clinic.”

By  Hellblazer_Sith  |  25

If he did not want a child he should have worn a condom. Safe sex is a thing. If you followed precautions then it is unlucky. I would sit down with him and discuss why he does not want to be a father. End of the day it is your body therefore your decision.