By Veronica - 21/11/2014 20:07 - United States - San Francisco
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He was probably messing with you, if not, well then dont take it too personal :) Im sure you look great!
Looks shouldn't matter. If the dude goes for you just for looks then odds are he ain't a good guy. Now, that doesn't mean you shouldn't do yourself up and have fun and try and look good. Just don't do it with a guy in mind. What you think is stunning and beautiful is probably going to fit for him as well. If not then forget him.
Wear what you want to wear, and what you feel confident in, not what you think guys will find attractive! (:
I'm having a hard time trying to figure out why you'd ask your FATHER whether he thought guys would be "into" you based on what you were wearing. Probably not how he wants to view his daughter. Just saying.
I'm going to step away from the snark for one moment. Bear with me. As the father of a young girl, I'm sick to fucking death of hearing stories of girls being torn down by their fathers, or fathers who don't listen, or fathers who don't give a fuck. My #1 job is to be there for my daughter and assure that she grows up happy, healthy, and well-adjusted. I do everything I bloody well can to make sure that happens, even if it means having a tea party on the lawn or letting her paint my nails or listening to her sing "Let It Go" for the 307th time that day. Listen up, gentlemen - when you have kids, be there. Full stop. Now back to your regularly scheduled bullshit.
But, Doc. That's not the point. While I agree that fathers should be there for their daughter in every way possible, tell me, if your daughter came to you asking you this same question what would you say? Because she's low key asking her father wether or not guys would find her attractive enough either date/sleep with/"holla" if you wish, based off her choice in clothing. Would you feel comfortable answering that question with a "Yes, honey, judging by what you're wearing I'd throw myself at you" she's asking him to judge her the way a random guy would probably judge her or look at her and a dad wouldn't look at his daughter that way. Besides, speaking of raising a well adjusted young lady, a father is not gonna accomplish that by giving his daughter the impression that she should be dressing to please guys. Yeah, it wasn't the best response from OPs dad but it avoided sending out that message and maybe just maybe, that's what OPs dad was trying to do. Maybe I'm just reading too much into it, I tend to over analyze shit.
Plus, a father who loves his daughter is generally going to be protective of her even if she's an adult so it's natural that the thought of his "little girl" (even she isn't so little anymore) being with a random guy would make him uncomfortable. There's also the fear that the guy could be total jerk who doesn't treat her right or even the unlikely possibility that he could rape or abuse her. To me, the dad seems to be joking and it's more of a "gee thanks Dad you're a real help" FML than because it's offensive.