By leahtortilla - 19/11/2019 20:00

Just friends

Today, I finally asked out the guy I have been in love with since the day I met him, about 7 years. He told me that I am a "very good friend" and he didn't think of me as anything more. FML.
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  alycion  |  38

Everyone says speak up when someone posts about who they like hooking up with someone. OP took a chance. Sucks the person doesn’t feel the same, but at least there was an attempt. No it’s time to move on and find someone who feels the same with no wondering what if.

By  jbuckets_404  |  38

You waited SEVEN years to ask him out?! YDI.... Besides, if a guy hasn't asked you out with the first month, then he probably never will. Good luck finding somebody else, OP!

By  poorjudgement  |  26

It’s OK. I know it doesn’t really seem that way right now, but it is better you said how you feel, as now you know, and can start moving on.
For everyone saying your life doesn’t suck... it sucks right now, but it’ll be better.
For everyone saying YDIT... well... you didn’t. We don’t decide whom to love, and taking courage to say out loud how you feel should count.
He doesn’t feel the same way... it’s still OK. You always knew it is 50/50 chance anyway. It is better to know than to wonder. The hardest love to overcome is the one based on “what if...” You have no “what ifs” now, and it is healing time.
Sending lots if positive thoughts your way. <3

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  Bibliovore  |  26

I agree with how supportive you're being for what OP is going through, and that it's better to know than to wonder, but disagree that there was a 50/50 chance here. That implies that there were only two possibilities and that they were equally possible. While OP's feelings could've been returned or not, it's less likely the feelings were mutual as nothing had happened over seven years, and other things were possible -- the friend could've been potentially interested in finding out if they were romantically compatible, the friendship could've been ruined by the request to make it something more, the friend could be not attracted to OP's gender, etc.