Jessica Chastain Wants Us To Stop Saying This Particular Phrase To Men... Here's Why She's Right.

Toxic masculinity is a universal FML.

Men expressing emotion has always been seen as a big no-no. Most of the time, when a man expresses any amount of vulnerabilty, his feelings are immediately disregarded and he is told to "man up." But do we ever take the time to think about what the phrase "be a man" even really means?

Expressing emotion is seen as feminine trait. Unfortunately, we have normalized a society where men expressing any femininity is a very negative thing. This type of toxic masculinity exemplifies itself in phrases like "man up" and "stop being a pussy."  The phrases mean exactly what they say: be more masculine. Do not be feminine. 

What people do not realize when they repeat what they think to be harmless phrases, is that these the types of gender norms are causing a lot more damage than we think.

On April 29th, actress Jessica Chastain took to Twitter to discuss her feelings on the harmful phrase "be a man." She made some very valid points— and even came prepared with some shocking statistics. 

The statistic is alarming. As Chastain pointed out, according to the Center for Disease Control, 121 Americans, on average, die by suicide each day — and 93 of them are men. 

Comedian Michael Ian Black recently touched on this subject at length in an Op-Ed piece for the New York Times, where he highlights the many dangers of toxic masculinity in relation to the recent rise of gun violence in the U.S. Black is no stranger to the subject of masculinity, as it's a subject he's also tweeted about in the past.

Something we can start doing as a society is illiminating harmful phrases like "Be a man" or "Stop being a pussy." As Chastain says in her tweet: "Let's cherish the vulnerabilities of men, their lives depend on it."

By nadine / Thursday 3 May 2018 11:31 /
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By  PenguinPal3017  |  19

Good on her for caring about the alarming number of men committing suicide. The world would be a better place if more people were like her.

By  PenguinPal3017  |  19

Such an insightful comment. /s

  PenguinPal3017  |  19

Such an insightful comment. /s

By  PenguinPal3017  |  19

Good on her for caring about the alarming number of men committing suicide. The world would be a better place if more people were like her.

  Dave_Davington  |  33

Shit, you're right (almost). In fact, I found the original.

I had no idea these articles were literally just copied word for word from shitty clickbait sites. Well, that certainly explains a lot. What the fuck are you doing, Nadine?

  Nadine  |  21

Where to even begin...

We get our articles from a multitude of sources, that we cite in every article. (Seriously, go back and check, you will always find the source, it's not something we're trying to sweep under the rug.) In the case of this type of article, where Buzzfeed got their information from other sources, we simply cite the original sources (The NYT, Chastain's Twitter, the CDC.)

By  White Trash  |  10

So make it illegal? Like someone says to you "Be a man" and so you call 911, but the police are too busy crying like little girls to respond to you so you tell them to "Man up and do your job" so the cops show up and arrest you.

By  RichardPencil  |  30

It’s a fair point, but sometimes I’m glad that it’s socially expected for men to bottle up our emotions. Sure, my anguish is eating me up from inside, but at least I don’t have to share it with anyone who asks!

By  lkb307  |  21

A "Real Man" can be sensitive, caring and loving without losing his "Manhood"
My family and close friends know how I feel. They have seen ALL of my emotions.
I'm sensitive to my wife and daughters.
I've taught my sons to be as I am.
Gentle when you should and tough when needed.
Oh and I have taught ALL of my children to not give a Damn what other people think.

By  ohsnapword  |  21

I'd think that a pussy is strong and calling someone one would be complimenting their strength. After all, those things can take a pounding.

  RichardPencil  |  30

It can let a baby out, and in a few weeks, be ready for fucking again! Strong!

On the other hand, if you flick a guy’s balls, he’ll vomit. Those things are so vulnerable. How did they become the symbol of courage and strength?