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By - 23/2/2020 05:00

Great disappointment

Today, I found out thru a friend that my crush actually thinks that I am creepy and disgusting, when all this time I was nice to her, paid attention to her whenever I'd see her and talk to her, shared my snacks with her, and such. I feel like dumb, ha-ha fuck love. FML
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By  JasonThorn  |  17

So, if I got this right, you were acting like a decent human being, but never talked to her about your feelings.

1. Find out what made you come across as "creepy and disgusting," and change anything that is a valid concern. If you want to look attractive, you have to find out what you can do to appeal to others.

2. "Love" sounds more like "infatuation" if you never shared your feelings. Don't confuse the two.

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By  JasonThorn  |  17

So, if I got this right, you were acting like a decent human being, but never talked to her about your feelings.

1. Find out what made you come across as "creepy and disgusting," and change anything that is a valid concern. If you want to look attractive, you have to find out what you can do to appeal to others.

2. "Love" sounds more like "infatuation" if you never shared your feelings. Don't confuse the two.

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  demix_fml  |  32

No such thing as friend zoned. You either are there because you want to be or because you want to be be in someone’s pants. Friend zoned is just another excuse for a person to not be a grown up and feel butt hurt because a person has different feelings. Be a friend or don’t be a friend, but don’t be there because you think you will or should get something out of it.

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  d3rpb0t  |  10

>> You either are there because you want to be or because you want to be be in someone’s pants.

Wait, is this what's defined as the difference between someone wanting a friendship and someone wanting a relationship?

I don't know about anyone else, but when I think of a relationship, it's about doing all the simple little things that make someone specific smile just because seeing them happy makes you happy.

Friendship by contrast is just general kindness you'd show towards someone to help out. Basically, relationship being a stronger version.

Still... while I agree someone shouldn't be in a friendship with an expectation to get something in return (so basically, if you can't handle being just friends, take a step back and find different social circles), I'm not sure I'd agree with with this take on "friend-zoning". Idk... it basically comes across as "Your feelings are not valid here. Go elsewhere." almost as if adulthood suddenly means you should be devoid of emotions.

...but then again I can't say I 100% act like an adult anyway, so maybe I'm not the most qualified to give an opinion on this, but... here it is anyway.

By  Deathwish242722  |  7

Maybe the friend that told you likes her too, I'd let her know how you feel instead of listening to friends. Maybe when they asked her she was embarrassed and lied about how she feels

By  lifeis4me  |  18

I get rejection hurts but honestly that just sounds like the average stuff a friend does. Behaving like a friend and expecting relationship results doesn’t make sense. Did you ever tell her that you liked her, or did you just think being nice means she automatically has to fall for you. Other than that, I’m sorry she ate your snacks even though she thinks you’re disgusting. That part doesn’t even make sense.