Amidst All The Mental Health Talk, One Woman's Story Raises An Important Point That We Seem To Be Forgetting

Sometimes, you have to jump in instead of waiting for people to ask for help.

The passing of Anthony Bourdain and Kate Spade happening at roughly the same time has reignited the conversation about the stigma of mental health, suicide, and the general way we approach healthcare in the United States.

Though any conversation on these subjects is extremely valuable, it's important to remember to keep talking about it all the time, and not just when high-profile celebrities pass away. As a society, we need to do better for the people who are struggling.

One main motif throughout all of the talking has been encouraging people who are struggling to simply ask for help. Many variations of encouraging words are passed around, typed up in blogs and tweets, and made into headlines that constantly remind  people that it is okay to ask for help. That they are worth the trouble. That it's no trouble at all.

And that advice is valuable. It's important to spread that reminder constantly. It is something that people who are struggling need to hear -- but it cannot be the only message we put out there. We cannot put all of the work on the people who are sick.

We need healthy people to step up as well, and step in when those who aren't capable of asking for help are struggling. We need to be able to better recognize that struggle, take risks, and step in when we see the need for some compassion. 

When Sheila O'Malley tweeted about a situation that was exactly that, it quickly went viral, getting over 150,000 likes. Her message on the struggle of not being able to ask for help, and heartwarming story of how her friends stepped in anyway is touching. Composed in 18 tweets, the full story can be seen below.

By nadine / Wednesday 13 June 2018 14:09 /
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  TinScarecrow  |  15

The only advice I can give you is to build relationships on days you feel up to it. Don't rush anything, just make progress. Be the friend you wish to have. It's hard, but this is coming from a person with social anxiety. I now have 3 amazing friends. When I moved they even brought their families to help. I tried my best to return the favor when they moved

  Josh Sovs  |  7

I can't say I have social anxiety but I am by no means a very social person. I don't know if you enjoy video games or not but in tough times I've found many wonderful friends online. True, it's hard to have a "physical" friendship but I find something as simple as enjoying the same game is a great ice breaker. Also for whatever reason, that physical disconnect makes it easier for me to reach out to online friends when times are tough.