You are dumb#1. He feels betrayed. She probably set up the next relationship while with OP and lied saying not to be worried about this guy. Although, OP should just burn off the emotional pain by moving on and not thinking about his X as relevant.

#1 isn't dumb, he's right. They've broken up therefore it was obvious it wasn't working out with them. We don't know details, for all know OP could've dumped her. We just don't know. OPs ex can date whoever she wants. She's not doing anything wrong.

The point, as usual, is lost on the grammar nazi. I don't know the context here, but as long as your girlfriend is loyal to you, you really don't need to worry whether she likes a guy or not. When you break up, she owes you nothing anymore and can date whoever she likes. Still FYL OP.

Why is that dumb? He doesn't own her, and she can date whomever she likes. For all you know, OP wasn't the best boyfriend in the world and she found better common interests in the guy she's now dating. Let's all move on with our lives, shall we?!

There's an old saying. "If a girl wants to dump you there's a 9 outta 10 chance she's already saddling a new pony." Might suck but that's how it works. She found someone better for her all you can do is move on.

Hamsters are Satan's pet. ~Old cherokee proverb. And just as reasonable as assuming 90% of girls cheat on a guy before dumping him.

I didn't say riding I said saddling.

Don't worry babe ;)

no... it just shows op he's better off now. when you break up with someone you dont continue dwelling on what the relationship use to be...but rather who you can become.

If she was in OP's position. I wouldn't take her back. Honesty and communication is what I value. If someone wants to play games like that, I'll show them the door and lock it too.

At least she's your EX and you found out when she was your EX than when she's not your EX, you saved yourself from another heartbreak!

I agree. It may be ironic, but there's no reason to call her names, as a lot of people here are doing.

I totally agree. I was in a similar situation a few years ago; my boyfriend at the time was extremely insecure and perceived pretty much all of my guy friends as a "threat". Fast forward five months later and yes, I did start dating someone he was once worried about. No, during my relationship I wasn't attracted to him at all, but I got to know him in a different way (we're still together, 3 years later). Every story is different and feelings do change, believe it or not.

I agree. I bet he wasn't anyone to be worried about at the time because she was in a committed relationship with Op and wasn't looking to go anywhere else. Once they broke up she probably started seeing this other guy in a new light which led to them dating. I don't think she's in the wrong at all. I wouldn't worry about it Op, time to move on.

Calm down, you don't know the whole story. Note the fact that OP stated his "ex" is "now dating" that guy. She never cheated on him, she just moved on.

its more like the fact she said she wasnt interested in him but when they broke up she went to him maybe it was just a coincidence but from my experience she was talking to that guy the whole time they were dating