I think racism stems from the fear of the unknown. Most racists are undereducated and feel threatened in some shape or form.

I think most people just don't really want to date a different race than them because they don't find them attractive, it's not really racist.

Uh.. if she was dating him before, when she thought he was Asian, and she didn't have a problem with his looks then, she shouldn't all of a sudden not be attracted to him because he's white..

So why was OP's ex 'attracted' to OP for 6 entire weeks before she learned his race? Not been attracted to someone is completely normal but its like being attracted to a white person but dumping him/her because you don't want to date an African (if they're from South Africa).

Hey, at least you're not "too cute" to be a certain background. On the other hand, good riddance.

Personally for me it's more of a fear of losing my culture not a fear of the other race.

Hey Mr.Too Cute to be Hatian. Lol....hope you found a girl with better sense.

He is, however, too European to be Asian.

Hey! You're from the other FML! Good to see you're still on.

I don't think this was racism. She most likely was just looking for a reason to break up with OP.

I guess she found the idea of being with someone of a different race exotic and exciting. Very stupid and very shallow of her.

She must be a certain kind of special.

Yes, but would this "smart asian guy" want such dimwitted offspring?

But 2, isn't your characterization of all Asians as smart also racism, albeit with a favorable trait rather than an unfavorable one?

That was clearly the joke

"Go to your room! Don't come out tirr you Doctor!"

21 It was a joke using the stereotype that all Asians are smart and pointing out OP's ex girlfriend's obvious lack of intelligence. It wasn't meant as a racist remark.

It still comes off as racist. It's like saying black people are poor and then trying to pass it off as a joke. Unless you're making fun of the stereotype itself, which I don't really see that you are

.. It's not like being stereotyped as a smart person is a bad thing

To #54, #2 isn't the one being racist, she's simply saying that OP's ex may have used that stereotype as a reason for breaking up. It's a common misconception about Asians so it wouldn't be out of this world to imagine OP's ex as believing. Plus, knowing a stereotype exists is much different than believing one.

65- point taken. Being aware vs believing 64- positive stereotypes can be demeaning and discouraging as well. The asians who are smart are smart because they are smart. Not because they are asian. Let's give a little credit to their natural ability are work ethic rather than dismissing it as a characteristic of their race as so many people do. Then there are asians who aren't as smart as they are "supposed to be" according to "asian" standards. Then they get called dumb when by other standards they are actually quite intelligent. Positive stereotype, negative stereotype, stereotyping isn't ever really good.

Then there are asians who are not smart a all and are made fun of simply because of that. Or asians who go the "non-traditional" route and are made fun of. Like asian rappers or asian basketball players.

54 it's more like saying black ppl are good at basketball it's a positive racial stereotype

Seriously. How can you break up with someone after dating them that long over a completely irrelevant fact about them?

What dumb ass girl were you dating OP?

How is that even relevant?

...as opposed to Asia?

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