A SEXUAL MACHINE!

Not all asexuals don't have sex. Asexuals don't experience sexual attraction to the s.o. A lot of us will have sex at the minimum for our significant others.

Asexual is a really "trendy" term to label people now. But she could just have a low sex drive. Or is inexperienced with sex, and maybe he isn't good at pleasuring her, or who knows.

Wow. Denigrating other people's feelings, love, and realtionships so blatantly is very narrow minded. OP's problem has NOTHING to do with sex. It's the wife acting childish and demanding someone take drugs for no medical reason, but only HER convenience.

91, we have absolutely no idea what is really going on in this situation. It sounds like there's a whole lot more to the story and that the "once a year" was most likely an exaggeration. For all we know the wife could be severely depressed, have an illness, or is taking meds or something else that is decreasing her libido and is sick of her husband begging to have sex all the time even though he knows she is having issues. I'm not saying what she did is right, I'm just saying it sounds like there's a whole lot more to this story. I personally think the wife needs to try and go on a medication to increase her sex drive and try and find out what is at the root of her low sex drive, seeing as sex is such an important part of a healthy marriage.

When men get to middle age they often have prostate problems resulting in urination problems. The first line medication for that is Flowmax. Once that is no longer effective the next medication that gets added is Proscar. It's the Proscar that causes a man to almost completely lose his sex drive and may cause E. D. problems. I know, I've been there. There are herbal supplements that together with the Flowmax that can give relief for the original prostate problem without killing the penis.

She might just be spending time with B.O.B.

She could also have a medical issue that decreases her sex drive.

@25 but then shouldn't she be the one taking medication?

There are specific drugs to blunt sex drive, but they are usually only prescribed if a person has deviant sex drives (paraphilia) eg. paedophiles, fetishists. Which makes me wonder why the wife is requesting he take it; if it's only because of her own low libido, that needs to be discussed and a compromise reached between them.

I seriously seriously doubt that his wife is asking him to take these. Go back and read the post. Does it not sound like a teenager leaving something out to not get in trouble with their parents or to get friends on their side? That's exactly what it sounds like to me.

That's weird, #54. All I'm getting from your post is "I'm a woman and OP's a woman too. That means I have to defend her no matter what!!!" which seems to be rampant on FML. Yay for assumptions!

#61, why do you have to be the jerk who took it from being a reasonable to discussion to a jibe about her being someone who "has to step in and have an opinion, JUST BECAUSE she's a woman," which sounds like "Taking down a Feminist 101" bull to me. Let people express their opinions without making woman-specific insults your counterargument, that's just a really cheap argument.

You think it's reasonable to accuse OP of lying by omission and saying he sounds like a teenager who's leaving stuff out of the story so he looks like the good guy? And my comment was the one you jumped on, while you didn't have a single problem with Hashle's? Gee, I wonder why. Oh, and "feminism" didn't enter my thoughts at all when I wrote my comment. I might be wrong about Hashle's reasons for supporting OP's somewhat abusive sounding wife, but I've noticed there is a trend of people jumping to the defense of their own gender even when the story's pretty clear and even when it takes serious mental gymnastics to justify the defense. I'm not saying OP's wife is obligated to put out, but you have to be a nutjob if you think her attitude isn't unjustifiably controlling and damn near abusive.

Seems quite natural to relate more and sympathise with your your own gender. Science does say we have more empathy for those similar to us. Why put feminism in quotation marks as though it isn't a real thing?

I put it in quote marks because her comment had nothing to do with feminism in the first place. I've got no idea why you assumed I was implying it's not a "real thing". That's almost as hyper defensive as Unenunciable's "taking down a feminist 101" comment. And there's a huge difference between empathizing a little more with your own gender, and jumping to ridiculous conclusions about someone based on no real evidence, like Hashle did. I'm surprised I actually have to point that out. Anyway, I've been bitchy enough for one day, so I'll quit it.

Unless it's serious, I think public complaints about personal relationship issues are trashy anyway (though of course it's fun to read them) so I'm already inclined not to side with a poster if there's massive gaps in their story. Like the whole question of where this medication is coming from is.

There are multiple medications that have the side effect that it can kill sex for a male. That is not the intended effect, but it us a very real side effect. Antidepressants can kill the ability to have an ******. Some prostate medications can cause the loss of a man's six drive and/or the ability to have an erection. There are alternatives to most of these or ways to minimize the problems - But these are very real indeed!

That's ridiculous. You don't need sexual contact to love someone, #33.

For romantic love, you do.

No, you don't. Love is a deeper emotion than just physical desire.

I'm with you dragongirl. If you love someone, you want to please them and satisfy them. If her sex drive is that low, it's her that should be seeing a therapist or on medication. If she's selfishly holding out- she don't love him. Sex isn't the only thing to a relationship, but it is important.

If you think that someone being in love with you means they should have to have sex with you when they don't want to have sex is okay, you need to look up the term 'coercive rape.' Consent is supposed to be given willingly, not given because of veiled threats of cheating or leaving, which is what you are suggesting. Just because someone is married to you doesn't make going "prove you love me by letting me **** you after I've said you don't want to" any less disgusting and creepy than it would be if it was a boy/girl pressuring their boy/girlfriend the same way. People would find the second morally corrupt, yet somehow they think that marriage is a blanket statement of consent. People who are coercively raped by their spouse have enough issues having what happened to them acknowledged, let alone taken seriously. Marriage does not remove a person's right to say no and have that declination honored.