By Anonymous - 24/09/2010 11:25 - United States
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OP OP OP (sigh) Wow you should have known better. Why were you neglecting your wiener by not gloving him up? There are lots of women out there that feel the need to trap a man into a relationship. Well you had your fun making that baby now it's time for you to step up and be a dad. Good luck.
I agree with everyone above about not wearing a condom. but it's not even about getting the woman pregnant. It's about the chances of getting an STD. you don't know this person. if she had something she couldn't care less if you get it. she doesn't know you either. God that's why the STD's are spreading so much. because of DUMB people like you OP. YDI.
LaUruguaya - Just because two people decide they are ready for sex doesn't mean they are ready to become parents. Yes, I believe they should be mature enough to think; 'well, if the contraception fails, this might result in a child', and that they should be able to deal with it in a mature and responsible way if it happens, but that doesn't mean to say that they necessarily want children (at that point in their lives).
still, if you're going to be having sex, you should make sure that you're in the position to care and provide for a child, seeing as the whole point of sex is reproduction (the pleasure is just a very amazing bonus ;) ). whether or not you want kids isnt the point, because the only sure way to avoid having kids is no sex or getting your tubes tied or a vasectomy (which both can fail on very rare occasions, if not done properly). hell, my best friend's brother was a pill, condom, vasectomy, diaphragm (misspelled?) baby. XD
I personally would never have an one night stand; but they're specifically for sex. Everybody has needs and that's just how some people fulfill their sexual desires. One night stand - Sexual activity with another person intended for ONE night ONLY. Assuming that they had an unprotected one night stand: If the OP never wanted to see this woman again, he wouldn't have gave her his real number. He's an idiot for that. Yes, he's going to be a father; but if they were stupid enough not to use protection, they should also be ready to suffer the consequences. If she's going to have an unprotected one night stand, she should be ready to raise a fatherless child. If he's going to have an unprotected one night stand, he should be ready to be a father. I'm not saying either is right in this situation. First of all, if you're going to have a one night stand, always use protection. You don't know what kind of diseases that person has, and in this case, I don't think anyone would want to have a baby with someone they barely know. But reality is, If he never gave her his number, he wouldn't be having this problem right now. Yes, it may be wrong in some peoples eyes; but BOTH of them should expect consequences.
I dont belive in karma but i do believe everything happens for a reason. My husband was the result of a one night stand the very FIRST time my mom-in-law (a flower child) had sex. It was hard on him not having a dad growing up. That's why he's so active in our kids lives. I don't view everything as a problem.
Forget it, I don't feel like explaining. :P Q: It's good that he's active in your kid's life. My dad also grew up without a father; it usually makes people stronger, and more determined to be a better parent. IMO, I don't think it's right to neglect a child. I was just giving examples of possible consequences.
OK, potentially stupid question here, but I'm not up on the rules of one night stands. Does only sex with strangers qualify? I thought you could have a one night stand with a friend or acquaintance, too. Doing it more than once makes you fuck-buddies, but what does doing it once make you, if it isn't considered a one night stand?
One-night-stand usually entails never seeing the other person again. You got the definition of "fuck buddy" or "friend with benefits" down pat. If you're friends and fuck once, that makes you friends who fucked that one time. Or, you can sum up all of the above: FORNICATORS!
Sheesh, comment bug is pwning me today. This is to answer Jane's question: The term "one-night stand" usually implies never seeing each other again. You're spot-on with your definition of "fuck buddies" or "friends with benefits". For friends who've fucked once, I would think they are called "friends who fucked that one time". Or, you can lump them all together with one term: FORNICATORS!
Maybe they used condoms an one broke/didn't work. Maybe he isn't the father. I would demand a paternity test to be sure (though as a woman I would know if the kid was mine haha) there isn't enough here to know if the had unprotected sex and condoms aren't 100% close but no cigar. Plus she should be on the pill/patch/shot/ any other birth control because if she is easy enough to screw a guy she doesn't know she should use birth control AND condoms. Also she probably called him because he was the only one of her one nighters to give her his number. FYL OP for this shitty situation!
159, Finally someone who isn't too busy being up on their high horse to say "oh wait maybe he did use protection, it's not 100% effective". Everyone always jumps to conclusions and is so judgemental when you don't know anything. If he used protection but it didn't work how does he deserve this.. Sure some of you may not agree with the idea of one night stands, but that's an opinion.. you can't say "oh look at all those people having one night stands, they all deserve to unwillingy get pregnant because one night stands are bad" lol that's just stupid. sooo obviously there isn't enough information for anybody to say whether OP deserves it or not -.-
YDI for FORNICATING! See kids, this is one of the many consequences of fornication! On tops of that, YDI for having a phone, having coworkers, and working in retail. F your kid's L for having a shitty future father.
Ahh... so you trusted HER to take care of the birth-control situation. Fool. Well, the next time... oh, you probably won't have any "next time". Daddy.